How to be More Light-Hearted

I like how there are more and more motivational materials to read online. There is an Instagram page I follow and I get new ideas on what to write and also able to gauge the popular topics based on the number of likes there. 

I was reading a book last night titled 'Enjoy Your Life' by Dr. Muhammad Al-Areefi. I bought this book in London, it was highly recommended by a close friend. She attended one of his talks and told me this is a best-selling book. It has 589 pages and last night I was reading a few topics including Topic 56: Do Not Care About What People Say, page 402.

From reading these topics, my observations, and experience in general, I concluded that one of the best way to lead a happy life is to be light-hearted.

Being light-hearted is often confused with the idea of 'I don't care'. It is different because the former suggests a more kind, positive and carefree approach whereas the latter imposes negativity, aggressive behaviour and resentment. 

How to Be Light-Hearted 

• Think good of other people's intention.
• Do not take criticism too seriously.
• Be open to learn from mistakes.
• Do not take everything too seriously. Some things are funny, some serious, some only last a few minutes, hours then let go.
• Learn to laugh at yourself sometimes.
• Be kind even if someone is giving you a sour attitude, you may even surprise them with your kindness and they might respond positively to you (It's proven to work, I've tried this. Apparently, a person was having a bad day and felt that everyone was against her. When someone was nice, the person felt surprised and felt embarrassed. The person started feeling a little better and responded more positively.)
• It's OK to be confused sometimes.
• Believe that things will work out eventually.
• Nothing difficult will last forever, there will be a way out.
• Believe in yourself.
• Be cautious but carefree.
• Flexible with your schedule whenever possible, being too uptight can make you worry.
• Always remind yourself to smile to neighbours, to colleagues and to those you meet in your day.
• Say kind words to people, keep the bad thoughts to yourself unless it is really necessary to say.
• Look at the bright side.
• Have a good relationship with people.
• Build a strong support system.
• Help others.
• Give to others and contribute to society.
• Never underestimate the power of giving, even if it is something you think is small or simple.
• Make someone's day:) With good words, with a gift or with anything sweet.
• Never try to bring down someone.
• Avoid ill-feelings like jealousy, hatred, revenge, too high expectations that lead to disappointments and anger.
• Learn to let go what you cannot change.
• Try before saying you cannot.
• Identify people, places and things that make you happy and do what you can to stick around positivity.
• Be aware that there will be negative people or those who try to bring you down. The fact that you are aware of this will make you less surprised when it happens. If it does happen, do not respond with negativity. Take the necessary actions you need to if it is serious. If it is not serious, let it go. Move on in life. 
• Be the person you would like to meet and be friends or date. You can only attract what you are. Great people attract great people. It is pretty true when they say 'birds of a feather flock together.'
• Remember to laugh, there is always something funny everyday.
• Relax and take it easy most of the time. I know this is not applicable when you have something due but when you can, chillax ;)
• Think good thoughts of yourself and focus on your strength.
• Never think you are too perfect and always improve yourself.
• Stay confident but at the same time respect others and acknowledge their strength and happiness.
• Keep moving forward, you can look back at the happy memories but be happy at whatever stage of life you are at now.

All of these put together makes you a more light-hearted person and I feel that this is what most people should aim to be.

 Have a happy day, lots of love :)

xoxo