Monday, June 5, 2017

How to turn Obstacles to Opportunities

Dear all,

First of all, thank you for dropping by. Hope you are doing well and for those who are fasting, happy Ramadan. 

Today I am writing a motivational topic on how to turn any obstacles into opportunities. May it be while studying, at work, in relationships or any aspect of life. Life is a rocky journey and there are ups and downs at times you least expect. I hope this article will give you an insight on how to improve your perspective on any life situation to the better. 

I read an article today that mentioned about the importance of having stress. Without stress, your life would be full of boredom and monotonous. However, moderate stress levels are crucial in ensuring a healthy lifestyle and success in whatever you do.

This topic is very general so I will try my best to write in a way that benefits most people. 

When you face an obstacle, the first thing to do is to not panic. Stay calm and cool. It's not the end of the world and always have that mindset that tells you that there is a solution to every problem. Even if you do not see the solution yet, there will be. That slightest ray of hope is important so that the person is not in despair and lose motivation.

Think of possible options that can solve the issue and consider the pros or cons. I guess sometimes in life you can only choose this or that. For example, when I was selecting majors for university education, I was choosing between Geology or Medicine. Tough decision but today after 6 years making that decision, I am thankful to say I am glad I made the decision best for me. 

Next, you can speak to people about your issue to get different opinions. It will be nice to see how other people perceive your situation. However, do remember that different people will have different views and different views of life so eventually it is your decision and what you feel is best for you. Decide accordingly and although you value people's opinion, decide rationally on what you feel is best for you. There may be a few people in your life that might play a stronger influence on your decision like parents or partner or bestfriend. Whoever it is, your decision will be in line with your priorities in life. There is no right or wrong answer in my opinion. It is just a matter of personal preference and life motivation.

Ask expert advice on your situation. If it relates to studying, go to your study advisor. If it relates to work, speak to a senior colleague for advice or your boss. If it is related to feelings and motivation, go to a counsellor. There is nothing to be ashamed of. If you need help, seek it. Everyone needs help in one way or another. You can be surprised on how much other people can help you. If not direct help, maybe some of their words can help you think of opportunities or possible solutions or even help create a completely different perspective of a situation. When a close aunt passed away last year, I was in London. My family only informed me a few days after and I was devastated and immediately arranged an appointment with my university counsellor. It helped so much with moral support and the good thing was that we even spoke about things that I was not planning to talk about but it was good fun and I learned so much from the lady I met. Another example is when I was given the option to study Geology, I had no idea what the subject was about but I was very interested. I reached out for help and contacted a person working in an international oil and gas company for advice, I asked around and found a kind couple in Texas willing to share their experience. When I had the interview with my sponsor, I was so excited but nervous at the same time. I reached out to an American colleague where I was working part-time in 2011 to help give me a mock interview. I was only in my teens and these were like professional working people but I tried not to feel intimidated and did what I needed to do. When people help you, remember to ask and thank them politely and stay humble. If they really went out to help you maybe even give them a small gift as a token of appreciation. My parents always taught me from when I was small the importance of showing appreciation to others like my teachers, friends and family. Giving a small sincere gift will cheer them up and it's always  good people to make people happy.

Focus on the pros. Every situation be it good or bad has its pros and cons. Focus on the pros and learn from the cons. After all, most of us usually learn from mistakes. As long as the mistake involves a learning process, assume you are on the winning end. 

Make the best of the situation. This is similar to focusing on the pros mentioned above but making the best involves action while the former involves mindset. Look at how you can make the situation exciting. You must be thinking what's exciting about obstacles? Well, look at the bigger picture. If it relates to studying, be thankful you are going to an amazing university or if you do not think your university is amazing, be thankful for even having a chance to go that far. Not everyone finishes school and not everyone has the money, opportunity and chance to do what you are doing. Be thankful and make the best of it. If its work, be thankful you have a job and earning money. Many people are trying to make ends meet. Imagine the beggars and those who are still searching for a job. If your job sends you to somewhere you do not like, think of something exciting you can do at that place. It may not be as amazing as what you wished for but it's something unique and adds to your life experience.

Focus on what you are good at. If all the above does not apply to you, think of something you are good at. Yes, you have that obstacle but give some time to yourself to have a little getaway doing something you enjoy be it art, sports, reading, writing, gardening, music, anything really that you truly enjoy and keeps your spirit alive. Allow yourself that time to unwind and have some 'me time'. 

Finally, have faith that it will all turn out well. You are not in full control of the situation and there are many other external factors. You can only do your part and leave the rest of it to Him. 

With this, I end this post and wishing you a wonderful week ahead :) 












Tuesday, May 16, 2017

How to Study and Not Get Bored

As I am writing, I have just completed my final exams of my final year at university, or at least a major part of it. One more exam to go! :)

I have received multiple requests to write on study tips and today I will share with you what I believe is ultimately a crucial aspect when studying for any exam and that is MOTIVATION.

Trust me, I know how it feels to suddenly feel like you have no motivation to study. You feel like doing something else instead and then you know you cannot because exams are drawing near so you feel down. You get your books to study and you genuinely do not feel like it. You feel like everyone else is having fun, the time of their lives. You feel like want to study but you do not have the 'mood'. 

If you are feeling like this, the first step is to be aware of it. Aware that your motivation is slightly low today or at that moment. So how do I deal with it? Well first and foremost, I will ask myself why do I feel like that and what do I feel like doing? If the answer is simply that I felt bored doing the same thing, I would try to implement some changes. It is very important to listen and be kind to yourself. Do not spoil yourself too much but listen to what your inner self needs and wants to do.
Usually, if this happens after some time of studying, I would stop to take a break. But if this happens at the start of my study session which is usually in the morning, I would try to implement a change in one of the ways below:


  • Change the subject, maybe you feel bored studying that subject.
  • Change the method of studying between reading, writing, listening to lecture recordings and watching helpful Youtube videos and highlighting. Always doing something in your study session makes it more interactive
  • Change the location of where I study. If I am really unable to go to the library or university at that time I will just change position. Please believe me how much this reaaaally helps. I change from studying at my study table to the floor (I even bring my study lamp to the bedroom floor) and to studying on my bed or in the living room. Changing your posture really stimulates your focus when studying and prevents boredom.
  • Do what you felt like doing. Go out, watch a movie or something on Youtube. Make yourself spend some time completely not thinking about studying then you feel guilty and this gives you a push and the drive you need to continue studying.
  • Buy something for yourself to motivate you to study. For me, it does not have to be something expensive. I got myself two new highlighters which I was excited to use and some healthy study snacks which I do not buy on normal days. I treat myself to a McD ice cream which I love every time I accomplish something.
  • Study in groups or with people around you like in a library or with friends. When you see many people doing the same, you will realise you are not the only one in the position and you will naturally feel like you want to study just like everybody else.
  • Have a clear plan on what you need to do each day so you are motivated to meet that target for the day. For me, if I have no target for the day I can easily feel demotivated but when I set a target I am more likely to stay focused until I reach that target then I say to myself 'Well done, target achieved for the day' but if I do not manage to reach that target I will say 'Well, maybe the target was too high, no worries I did my best. Let's continue tomorrow or another day, I will make sure I set a day at a later time to make up for what I did not finish that day. This way I can fulfil the target for tomorrow and only if I have extra time that I will fit in whatever I missed. Do not be too hard on yourself.
  • Remind yourself why are studying, what results you want to achieve and imagine yourself getting that amazing results. It will motivate you.
  • I read before that imagining and believing that you will do well in an exam is so important for you psychologically. Imagine you going to the exam hall and able to answer all questions well and result come out and you excel. Imagining good things in your mind will make it even easier and eventually a reality. If you go into the exam hall with a mindset that says 'I will be able to do this' it is proven scientifically then you are more likely are even if the questions are difficult because you already told yourself it will go well. I am not sure how to explain this in a better way but I hope I made it clear, any questions do feel free to ask me :)
  • Exercise exercise exercise. Your body produces happy hormones and it helps you stay positive and motivated when you exercise. It could be cardio, yoga, dance, anything but do not ever underestimate the power of exercise. If you observe the people around you, those who are cranky and always in a bad mood are those who do not exercise ;)
  • Eat healthy and at regular times. It does not help if you are feeling hungry. You will easily feel demotivated just because you are hungry. This is a no no for me, I always make sure I eat a big healthy meal for lunch and on time. I try to buy different things so I do not get bored. I buy lots of fruits, walnuts, dates and raisins. Also, some of my favourite chocolates. They help me stay motivated when studying. 
  • Finally make prayers. For me this is crucial and my prayers helped me so much throughout. Whatever religion you are, it feels good to know there is a higher power  in charge of what eventually happens and has control over everything. In my religion, I need to work hard then just pray to God and He will do the rest and help me. Its called tawakkal and for me it helps me so much. 

All the best and hope these tips helped :)












Wednesday, April 26, 2017

How To Eat Healthy and Feel Happy


For those of you who are new to my blog, here is a short background about myself before I start giving tips. I am a final year university student, in my early 20s and my height and weight are 5 foot 4 and in the 50s. My BMI is thankfully normal and healthy. I recently had a blood test last year and when the results came out the doctor went through it thoroughly. When he started discussing cholesterols, he said 'bad cholesterols' within the healthy range, 'Good cholesterol' .... interesting. It is well above the healthy range. He also commented that this is one of the rare cases where he sees the 'good' cholesterol at this level and asked me about my diet and what I eat. My iron level is low however and that is clearly reflected in my lack of fondness of iron-rich food like peas, seafood, dry fruits, red meat and internal organs. I do not eat these much. So I now know where I need to focus. I started buying iron supplements for that. It is highly recommendable for all of us to do a blood test and a health check up from time to time. Aim for once a year, if not then once two years. Put a reminder on your phone for this. 

About the good cholesterol, it seems like a few things contributed to this. I like eating salmon which is common in the UK. I always remove the fatty parts of meat and most of the time even the chicken skin. I like eating chicken breast because it is easy to eat (no bones) and has no skin. I really like whole grain bread. I started putting olive oil in my salad and use vegetable oil or sunflower oil before frying food. When I fry something I soak out most of the oil using loads of kitchen paper and only eat it when most of the oil is gone. I love love orange and grapefruit which apparently are high fibre fruits and good to lower bad cholesterol levels. I eat chocolate with hazelnut & dates with pecans. Two of my ultimate favourite combinations. I started eating avocado out of curiosity because it is so common here in the UK and its green. I like anything green usually. I like spinach and basically all those green veggie like broccoli, salad, celery, cucumber, lettuce, anything green you can think of except for courgette (I do not like soft veggie too much so I started buying less avocado, I like the crunchy ones better). Salad for dinner or with lunch happens at least 4 times out of the 7 days a week. In a way, some of the things I like are healthy by chance. I have been eating salad for instance since the age of 3 or 4. It was very common at home as my dad had a garden and planted so many veg and fruits and I loved it. Maybe that is where my love for veg and fruits started. My boyfriend says that I literally am half vegetarian because most of the time, 2 of the 3 main meals I eat a day are all vegetarian -friendly. But no, I am not vegetarian. The meat I eat is only chicken, beef or lamb. I like these especially during lunch or chicken cubes in my salad. 

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So what do I eat in the day? 

Image result for mark spencer pecan cerealBreakfast: The first thing I consume in the morning is a quarter glass of lemon juice for detoxifying purposes. I just cut a small slice of lemon and add hot water or some people add it with sugar but I am fine with just lemon and water as I like sour things. I used to enjoy eating cereal with milk. I like this pecan and maple. I absolutely love this! However, this year I seem to be fond of eating bread for breakfast because I tend to get hungry early if I just eat cereal. As I am speaking, I literally have been surviving on cereal for breakfast for 3 years and only this year I started eating more peanut butter and Nutella sandwiches or baked beans with toast or tuna sandwiches which I would prepare quickly in the morning before starting my day. A cup of black tea is a must. I am a big fan of tea. 

                                                
Lunch: This is the main meal for me in the day. I eat a really big lunch. I would cook my lunch on the weekends or eat at the university cafeteria on the weekdays. I would normally eat rice with chicken or salmon and a veggie/salad side. Sometimes I would have pasta with chicken or beef. Once in a while, I would have a shawarma wrap. Whatever it is, it must be anything heavy. I can rarely survive on sandwiches or just baguettes for lunch. I remember during my field trips I used to get hungry because I would only eat light lunches. Whenever I do not have a chance to eat a heavy lunch (which happens rarely) I would get so hungry by 5 pm and would need to eat a heavy dinner earlier than usual. If I eat a heavy lunch, I can have a light dinner. It's easier for me because then I do not have to cook in the weekdays. 

Dinner: Salad is the norm. If I am hungry I would add chicken cubes that I stir fry with mixed herbs and turmeric and salt. If I do not have the patience to cook chicken, I would just make eggs and toast and sometimes with broccoli. If I am feeling too hungry, I would just buy chicken wings at a shop opposite my house. I am lucky that there are so many halal options in London, even at university. Sometimes when I am not hungry like last night, I just had grapefruit for dinner with a cup of hot milk and plain biscuits. That is something about me. I like many things plain. I do not like too much flavour. People have commented on this a couple of times. I could just eat white rice as it is because it is so yummy to me and quite sweet. I could also just eat a French baguette or toasted bread just like that. I like the original taste of food without anything mixed with it. 

Image result for picklesSo, if I make sure I have these 3 meals in a day, I would less likely eat tidbits and junk food. However, I do drink a lot of tea. Like today, morning black tea, afternoon milk tea and night (recently) decaffeinated earls grey tea. To me, it helps with digestion and that is what I aim for so I won't eat too much. Also, I try to eat a lot in the day when I have more time to digest it compared to at night when I just have a few hours before sleeping. I eat a lot of fruits as snacks. Pickles are also my all-time favourite finger food.

                                           

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Cravings
Image result for lemon and poppy seed muffinsI am one of those people who believe life is too short to put too many restrictions on yourself. Eat well and enjoy what I eat is what I aim for when planning my diet. I love hazelnut coffee cake, blueberry muffins, lemon and poppyseed muffins, ice cream (I just had one today, I treated myself as soon as I came out of the library), potato chips and chocolates. Do I restrict myself? Well, not really. I still allow myself to eat these but I choose one a day. I do not go eating all of this in a day. So I choose one or two if I feel like it. If I do not feel like it I do not make it a must to eat one of these every day. Also, try eating sweet things and these in the middle of the day and when you are busy so that you can burn the calories sooner. It is important to eat what you crave for. Otherwise, you might end up eating a lot. You eat everything and still not feel full. So my tactic to ensure I do not eat too much is to ensure that I do fulfil the cravings from time to time. When you eat what you like you also feel happy. So this also helps with feeling happy.

                                          
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The thought of eating healthy food makes me feel happy about myself and my body. Also, do not worry too much about gaining any extra weight. Remember to balance it with exercise at least 3 times a week. And for women, adding some weight would be helpful to enhance the curves (speaking from experience ;) There are is so many exercises even on youtube and there should be no excuse to spend at least 15 minutes every time you exercise. 


Listen to your likes and dislikes and try to balance the two. Eat healthy food yet still eat the food you enjoy, I do not like garlic but I swallow some small garlic pieces from time to time to keep me healthy. Read up on the benefits of garlic. Hope some of these tips helped and all the best with eating healthy and staying happy! :)






Monday, April 17, 2017

April Updates from LittleMissMeen :)

Dear all,

How are you all doing? Hope everyone is doing great. Oh dear, I have literally been waiting for the next time I have a chance to sit down peacefully and blog. In between my busy routine, I always think of what I want to write next and here I am again after a month. After university life is completed insyaAllah, I hope to blog more often. So many things in mind to write but today I chose to introduce a blog series titled 'London Diaries' that I will start writing soon to share different parts of my journey in the United Kingdom and specifically in London. I want to write about my perspective as an international student living in London and how it changed from my first year to my fourth year now. To me, this is a major chapter in my life and I would like to share my stories with hope it will be beneficial to anyone in the same position or anyone thinking of studying abroad. It is definitely not easy living alone in a foreign country and my first year of university in London was my first time ever in the UK. Alhamdulillah I am now on my final MSci year and I am so humbly proud of myself. I went through so much to be where I am today. I persevered so much, I worked hard, I stayed positive, I had a good attitude towards whatever challenge I faced next, I was patient and thankful and I found reasons to be happy in life. The first year I was in the UK was literally one of the most challenging times of my life. Today when I look at my pictures back in 2013 and 2014, I wanted to tell my younger self to not worry and everything will be ok. It is not very long ago, just about 3 to 4 years ago but I feel like I have grown so much since then. I am proud of the person I was then and proud of the person I have turned out to be today. There are so many things I can work on and I want to continue to improve. I believe that life is a journey and we can never stop learning new things and becoming a better person. During that time of difficulty, I also believe that Allah was taking care of me and watching over me. During that same year, I met a special someone who loves me so much at the time when I needed someone the most and I am forever blessed for all the rezeki that Allah gives me. To me, I always believe it is His plan and He knows what I am capable and not capable of doing so He plans it all perfectly. Trust His plans even if at the beginning you see it all dark and gloomy. At the end of that first year, I also made a decision to do something that has been so difficult for me before which was wearing the hijab. I realised that in the end, good things do come out of a difficult situation insyaAllah. You just need positive perspective. Over time and now in my fourth year, I feel so different and I actually enjoy staying here in London. I actually feel warmth here even when I am alone now and this warmth I did not feel in the early days when I was here. So these  'London Diaries' are aimed to also help provide some motivation on changing your perspective about things that seem negative at the start but eventually good in the end. Apart from that, I will share some bits/tips of things I think people who plan to live or study in London will find useful. I simply wanted to share my experience and provide some motivation and hopefully a beneficial read to those who might be in a similar position. 


Exams

First of all, a quick update. It's exam time now. I usually write exam tips for SPM students and now its LittleMissMeen who will be sitting for exams soon. Congratulations to Nasha for her SPM results!!! I received an email from her while I was on a short holiday in Germany end of last month. Thank you for updating me and good job on your hard work. Speaking of emails, I am receiving so many emails, comments and questions regarding people who want to rebond their hair. Ok I will share with you some statistics. The article titled 'What You Need to Know Before Rebonding Your Hair' received 174 991 views and 193 comments and my blog post 'Simple Beauty Tips at Home' received 282 673 +1 clicks. So what are these Google +1 clicks? I did not know myself and this blog has been teaching me to be more technology friendly. So it's a way that the reader recommends it to the Google Search Engine and from the Blogger Help Forum, it says that it helps your blog to get a bit of a reputation on Google Search. Thank you everyone who clicked +1 for all of my posts, I appreciate it so much. It really motivates me to keep writing when I receive such wonderful feedback, kind words and hearing that I helped someone whether in a motivation sense or by the study tips I give. I recently received an email from someone enquiring about rebonding and by chance I was on my email at that time so I replied right away. She replied back within minutes and the first thing she said was 'Thank you for noticing me'. In my heart, I was like aww I am just a normal person too and I do not think my advice on rebonding will be that significant to what she can find online but the fact that she really appreciated my reply made me feel like it's important to connect with my readers and respond to them. I will try my best, I promise. I know there are unreplied comments and maybe emails I have not had a chance to check. But please send me an email at littlemissmeencollections@gmail.com if I do not reply to your comment. It does not mean I am ignoring you, it is just that I do not check my blog frequent enough but my email is synced to my phone so I will get the notification immediately and I can easily reply through my phone. 

Also if you have any request on blog topics, please just write it in the chatbox that I created. I will be more than happy to write on any topics you request or you can just comment here. 

Another improvement I want to make for my blog is to add more pictures. It has been the longest process ever whenever I wanted to add pictures but I have an alternative method which I shall try. 

Exam time now so I have been studying everyday. Something funny happened. Two weekends ago, I decided that I wanted to become invisible and hibernate with my books and hopefully nobody will notice or ask where I went. I was so busy at that time and I wanted to get off social media temporarily to reduce procrastination. The moment I decided to become 'invisible' I got a text from a friend the next day asking how I was and if I wanted to meet. The following day another friend from Malaysia. The following day another friend who already graduated. The following day 2 other friends until 7 complete days. Imagine each day a different person contacting you at the same time you wanted to go invisible (hehehe I need Whatsapp smileys now, the one laughing with tears). What happened to going invisible and hibernating with my books? Nope not happening. They love me a lot and I love them too so I decided to reply everyone and tell them I had exams etc and will catchup after exams. I really am not a chatty person during exam times. That is something I expect people who are close to me to understand. There are things you need to compromise and understand about your friend and to me, this is something people need to accept about me. I am not perfect and will try to improve but I cannot and do not want to commit too much and put extra pressure on myself close to exams. When people want to meet etc, you will need planning and chatting about it and I do not want to discuss things like that too much when the main thing on my mind is sitting in the examination hall and answering the questions. Exams are a very important time for me and I do not like discussing problems too much or any negative things. I just talk about light topics, I watch what I eat carefully, I make sure during my break times I exercise or do yoga. I do go out with my friends and family sometimes. Like last weekend I visited my cousins and we played basketball, badminton, football and relaxed in the park. We ate watermelon, pineapple and ice cream it was so fun to see them. Then the Sunday I had a picnic in Holland Park with my Malaysian friends. Then last Thursday I went to a Lebanese restaurant with a friend for lunch. Last night I visited a friend at her flat and brought fruits and chocolates for us. She had been feeling lonely and down so I just came briefly to cheer her up. And today I went to Hyde Park with another friend to feed ducks, parrots, squirrels and just enjoy the relaxing park. It is my favourite place to go in my free time- the park. During exams, I mostly like to spend time to myself and with my books. It has been like this since SPM. I do not go out too much and actually, it has improved now. Before I was even more extreme hehe ;) This is my last exam of my life insyaAllah all goes well. Do pray for me. 

I wish all of you a beautiful start of the week. Do take care and start your week with a positive mindset. 

Lots of love xxxx


Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Motivation of the Week: Think Good of Others

Dear blog,

I realised something coincidental and funny. It seems like my favourite blogging day is Tuesday! :) It's been awhile that I realised since October that I enjoy or always think or feel like blogging on a Tuesday. And today proves that Tuesday is definitely my blogging day. Maybe because Wednesday is usually a half day, lectures just till 1 pm then I have fun activities like the HUG event, gardening for Volunteering week and gym class and many more fun activities on Wednesday so maybe I feel more relaxed to blog on a Tuesday? I am not sure hehe

So, less of an update from me in this post and aim to write more motivational. But if you fancy reading a quick update>> Well, today is the time of the month so I came home earlier than normal and decided to relax, eat fruits, have hot milk and then took a nap. I rarely take a nap in the day. I can confirm confidently that the number of times I take a nap in the day is less than 10, maybe even less than 5. Because I do not like taking day naps. I prefer sleeping early but only those rare days that I do not feel well that I do. So today I felt like being on the verge of getting ill, throat, nose and the time of the month that I do less physical activities. I feel that the first few days, ladies do not force yourself to do too many physical activities. I was planning to stay for yoga but my body did not feel like being in college once I finished at 4 pm so I went home early. Although my mind was telling me to be productive and stay for gym class at 5 pm or at least yoga at 6 pm, I listened to my body saying no I wanted to go back home and rest. 

Ok so back to motivation, in this article I would like to point out the importance of thinking good of other people, other humans and other creations of God. I read an article today about a girl with mental health on BBC News: The Story I Read Today. It was really touching.. imagine what things she was thinking. She was feeling low of self-worth that even someone's laughter can frighten her because she thought they are laughing at her. She felt very insecure. And she could not even ride her horse because she felt that she was not good enough. 

Dear readers, when I read this, do you know what I gain out of it? Well, the first thing that comes to my mind is the importance of being kind. If I met her on the street or was assigned a project with her and did not know her well, how would I perceive of her actions? From her behaviour, it seems like she would not be very pro-active in group discussions or even take part in any activity or be committed to any task she is given because she cannot wake up and have the motivation for the day. You see, if someone never experienced this, how would they know? They would be immediately annoyed and think negatively of the other person. People seem to be not understanding of the things they do not know. This is not a great fact but it is true. People think that other peoples' lives are all great and perfect and rarely give the benefit of the doubt. If someone is behaving strangely or not how you expect them to be, it might be something difficult that they are facing. They might not be too open to tell you about it because you are not very close to them or they do not feel that they can tell you. So what is the solution to this? Communicate respectfully and be kind. Spreading kindness has its power that nobody can understand or explain. It spreads warmth and creates a connection between people. Sometimes with that kindness, only the other person opens up. Just like me. I do not open up about anything I am facing unless I feel that the other person genuinely cares and can give me good advice or just supportive words. 

Also, speaking of confidence and self-worth, different people have different ways of gaining or developing their self-confidence. And recently I realised that social media is actually a platform that some people use to overcome homesickness, feel confident and to get any attention that they are deprived of. Of course, not everyone who posts on fb posts for these reasons but I know some people that do. I never actually thought of this that social media gives them a positive impact and helps them overcome sadness/depression or negative feelings but to me, if it helps them feel better then do. It is nice to share about your life (not everything of course) but it's nice to write it like how I enjoy writing in a blog and then reading it again after some time. I also have recently enjoyed this FB Memory reminder thing and it makes me so happy to see old pictures. This and the fact that I have been convinced by a few friends that sharing on social media more often brings more good than bad, I have decided to be more social media friendly. I am more open to sharing nowadays and yes it does make me feel happy. As for me, I like the feeling of being genuine and living my little private and happy life doing what I enjoy and do best. I like the feeling that I do not need to impress anyone but Allah and myself and this is something that I  try not to change because I can feel the vibe on social media that many people are trying to impress others. To me, if someone wants to or gives me the opportunity to be their friends or be part of their lives, then I am not a difficult person to be close to. I often need that assurance, otherwise, I would just be casual B) Also if someone's personality (a girl who is positive and kind) attracts me then I will try to be friends hehe. This journey abroad has made me learn so much of myself and built me to be a better person insyaAllah. 

If there is one take-away message from today's blog post: Every human is different, different personality, different likes, different dislikes, different things that offends them, different source of happiness. But if there is one thing you can do to overcome this difference which will make it easier for you is to think good of others. Realise that everyone is going through and fighting their own battle that you do not know of. Allah promised He will test each and every one of us. Nobody is exempted from being tested. Know that each person may be going through something difficult that you have no idea of, and slowly you can build compassion for another being and from compassion comes a kind heart and kind actions insyaAllah. Nobody is perfect, we all need to keep improving and hopefully this articles has motivated you to take that extra step this week/month to being a kinder and more compassionate you :)