Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Let's GOMO, Not FOMO

You must be wondering what GOMO and FOMO means, well I certainly did when I heard from Eventbrite about the fun fall project they organised this Autumn to promote GOMO and getting people away from Netflix and Chill and encouraging people to go out more often. 

GOMO simply means Going Out More Often and FOMO Fear of Missing Out. I hope this blog post will be beneficial to readers or spark some ideas on how to GOMO!


As a finalist university student, I totally understand how we often have busy schedules and can be anti-social at times...  I try to not be guilty of this...but basically the idea of GOMO really starts from having the interest in interacting with people and spending time with them. Interest is the number one key factor in my opinion which determines whether a person wants to go out or just stay home and get on social media or watch movies on Netflix. When people do get on social media, they realise how other people are having so much fun and then they feel like they have been missing out. But if they had put in some time to go out and interact with people, they would not have that missing out feeling. The funny thing is some people even feel pressured to post something online regularly to show and tell people how they are having a good time. It is not necessarily good or bad but the idea of genuinely having a good time going out and interacting with people is important. Human beings are created in a way that they like to socialise and interact with another and isolating yourself for prolonged periods of time will certainly be detrimental to your health and can promote negative feelings about yourself and about life in general. Do not ever underestimate of having a quick chat or catch up session even if you are busy. For me, its easier to catch up with friends when meeting up and speaking to them like on the phone or Skype rather than text messaging- my least favourite. 

Now I would like to share with you some things I implement on a daily/weekly/monthly basis to ensure I GOMO and not FOMO. 

Personally I enjoy reading and hearing about people's updates on blogs especially, I wish more people would blog sometimes or make their blog public but the truth is, it is so so so much better to hear updates from people in person rather than just by scrolling down social media and seeing what's new. Interacting with someone builds a bond and friendship with that person and like they always say, a thousand friends may not be enough, but one enemy is too many. I'll try not to deviate too much from this topic but what I am trying to say is that it is always nice to meet new people, new friends and interact and build good relationships with them. You never know how they will be helpful to you in some way in the future like updating you about a new job opening or a nice flat that you might end up staying or they might not be helpful in those ways but instead simply make you feel good about yourself and keep you happy and motivated. 

Some of the social activities I do are in the evenings or in the weekends and include some of the following:


  • Organise and celebrate a friend's birthday. I think birthdays are the best time to organise a social gathering because its a happy event and people are always eager to meet for birthdays
  • Join a society and meet new people who share the same interest, for me I do Yoga and Gym classes. Apart from keeping me healthy I enjoy meeting people who I can connect with and having a similar hobby helps us find common ground
  • I build relationships in the flat I stay. I would go for welcome parties, Christmas dinners and BBQ parties that my hostel organises to interact and meet people who live in the same place as me. I know that the close friendships I've built upon starting university have mostly been at the hostel because it gets more personal when we are living together or close to each other, These neighbours are our immediate source of comfort or people we might see on a regular basis so I make time to meet and spend time with them. 
  • Invite friends over to your place for a sleepover or just simple be the one to ask them out, it does no harm to out your ego away. Ego eats up much of quality social life
  • Do some things on a regular weekly or fortnightly basis, for instance watching a movie even on my laptop every two Friday nights with a friend helps to make me go out more often rather than trying to find a new time each week. A fixed time makes it a like a habit and is more likely to happen compared to something that needs to be planned each week. 
  • Put aside some social time each week in the weekends where you can unwind and relax, Within these hours, I will try to plan something with my friend like invite them over to cook lunch together and it is definitely more fun cooking  with a friend.
  • Visit people, I like to visit my cousins when I have a free whole weekend and play with the little one! Its nice just to be in a different environment at times and it keeps you refreshed. People enjoy it when you visit them, it makes them feel special because you put time to travel and come to their place so I certainly recommend this because I personally enjoy it when people visit me. 
  • Being an international student, I also have family and friends back home whom I want to keep in touch. It is so tricky trust me plus the enormous 7-8 hour time difference. I usually am able to skype with my family in the weekends because I am in college the whole day most weekdays and then able to skype with friends who go to bed a bit later like after 9pm even till 2am Malaysian time. University is busy as it is and keeping in touch requires consistent effort. What I believe is that true friendships will stay and GOMO will certainly encourage it.
  • Plan short day trips or outings together like shopping sprees! Update each other when you know something new or if there is a discounted trip. Holidays together definitely helps you build even better relationships. 

That is a summary of what I do in attempt to go out more often and build good relationships with family and friends. Hope these ideas might help encourage you to GOMO and live a balanced university life. Yes, uni life is so hectic, trust me I understand 150% and believe me, building good relationships with people is definitely a key motivator for myself to keep going and doing my best.  I am always looking forward to the fun activities we plan with each other either at the end of the day, end of the week, end of the month or end of term. It all makes a difference but it is also important to know your priorities and ensure that you have time to get all your work done.

That's all for me so let's GOMO so we won't FOMO :)

Here is a link to Eventbrite's event ticketing page selling online tickets for you to organise events or to get more involved.




Thursday, November 10, 2016

Motivation Video to Keep Motivated and Doing Your Best



Homeless student achieves victory! Truly inspiring :)

SPM Tips from 11A+ student

REPOST FROM 24 OCT 2011

Dear all, here is a special post from my friend May Lee Cai Ling who obtained straight A+  in all her 11 subjects. Thank you May for your  sharing your ideas in LittleMissMeen. Currently, May is doing her A Levels under JPA sponsorship. She obtained Biasiswa Nasional 2010 which is awarded to top students in MALAYSIA. I am not sure what is her ranking but wow that is a great achievement. FYI, she just had to write what course and what country she wanted to go and they offer full sponsorship. Awesome right? If you are want to know who this awesome friend of mine is, her picture is in this link:
(Second from the right-beside me. This picture was taken from Utusan Malaysia the day after our SPM Results were out)


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 So yesterday she messaged me and told me that she has already emailed me these tips for my blog. Here it is: ENJOY! 




Things that I did for SPM =D
General comments:
·         NEVER leave a question blank. Write anything but not nothing. Do your best attempt for each question.
·         Allocate your time properly. Do not spend too much time to produce a perfect essay especially for sejarah and science essays, you won’t get the points that you might lose if you do not have enough time to complete the other essays. If time allocation is 20 minutes for each essay, that’s it, after 20 minutes, stop whatever you are writing and proceed on the next question. Come back when you have the time.
·         DON’T SLEEP or leave early during the exam!  If you have plenty of time, check, recheck and check again until the end of the paper. 
·         Make sure you shade your answers correctly in objective questions.
·         Look through all exercises that you have done before. You should have make notes on the difficult ones before, so take some time to read through them.  
·         Have at least 6 hours of sleep. Stay alert, don’t make careless mistakes.
·         Stay calm, don’t rush or panic.
·         Make sure you have everything you need (pens, 2B and HB pencils, rubber, ruler, calculator, IC, the piece of paper that you carry into the room, etc.)
·         Check the exam timetable every day! 
·         If you have problems, ask immediately. 
·         Don’t sleep too late, have a balanced and regular diet.
·         Don’t forget to laugh and smile every day. =) This keeps stress away. Have confidence.
·         Maintain your momentum even if you just have one more paper to go!
·         Pray hard!
BM and BI 
Essays:
·         I read quite a lot of sample essays. If you get any tips for essays, I don’t think you have to read samples for each and every topic. Eliminate those that you know for sure that you won’t attempt. Focus on those you are confident of. 
·         Learn the interesting phrases and write them down somewhere, then reread them the night before the exam. Obtain useful points from the sample essays, you will find different topics having similar points, for example, gejala sosial dalam kalangan remaja. 
·         Don’t panic when you get your exam paper and find that you have not prepared for any of the topics. Think of related topics and find appropriate points that might be useful. 
·         Read and reread the exam questions. Make sure you get it right and fully understand what it requires. Even though you may have prepared for one of the exam questions, the instruction of the question might require something different from what you have read before.
·         Write down ANY points that cross your mind, regardless of whether you are using them or not so that you will not struggle to remember them when you are halfway through writing. The points help you to brainstorm too. 
·         When you write, remember NOT to put two points in one paragraph. Each paragraph for each point. Write the MOST IMPORTANT points first. Organise the points so that they follow a certain order. For example, you can start with peranan kerajaan and end with peranan individu or vice versa.  
·         For BM essays, we are required to write as long as possible. You should have been told this before, but do spend more time on your long essay. For the short essay, don’t elaborate TOO long, stick to the points that you are required to include in every paragraph (isi, huraian, contoh and kesimpulan) and write not more than 4 lines for each points. For long essays, stick to the points also, but elaborate longer. Use definitions, peribahasa etc to elaborate and include a few more examples; remember to extend on the examples by relating them to the main point given.      
·         This might be quite hard for certain people, but bigger handwriting really does gain you some advantages. Your essay will look longer and the examiner will be happier to read your essay. Remember to leave a line before starting each new paragraph.
Novel and Komsas/Literature:
·         Well, some seniors who obtain really good marks for this component might not agree with my way of studying, but I think there is no other way of understanding the text fully unless you really go through the texts not once but a few times especially for the novel. Some reference books provide good synopsis but I don’t think that will be sufficient for full understanding. Knowing the FLOW of the novel is important in a way that you do not have to put too much effort in memorizing the plot and the nilai-nilai. Even if you forget about the points that you have memorsed earlier, you can simply make some out yourself and get them right. Knowing the flow is even important when it comes to the random questions like “what do you learn from the novel, how do you think it is important” etc. Due to the very limited time, it is easy to get panicky and you can hardly think. Understanding the text will allow points to pop into your head as you write. Anyway, it happens to me…
·         For literature/komsas questions, prepare by reading and doing as much exercises as possible. Check the answers and learn them. But do try the questions before you check the answers, for some of the answer schemes provide only the main points and so you need to give your own elaborations. It is always better to have 1 or 2 extra points to back up your answers in especially in BM.
Ringkasan/Summary and Tatabahasa/Grammar: 
·         Your teacher would have taught you the correct way of doing it. Follow their instructions!
·         Be careful on simple things like punctuations (full stops, hyphens), capital letters, etc.
Mathematics and Add Maths:
·         Remember to label the axis of graphs and write correct unit.s
·         Look through exercises that you have done before and make sure you understand each and every one of it. 
·         Normally I don’t do practices the night before Maths exams, unless I have finished going through all the exercises that I have done before. Doing exercises is too time-consuming. For me, doing tough questions the night before Maths exams will just get you all worked up and frustrated. Difficult questions should be attempted and understood long before the exams. What you do before the exams is just to refresh your memories on them.  
Sejarah:
·         Teachers will not be happy with this, but I really do find tips extremely helpful in studying for Sejarah. However, it is very important to collect tips from various sources and from different people so that you can put them all together and have a whole collection of them. Then there is a higher possibility that what you read will come out in the exam. What I do before the exam is to go through the tips one by one.  I know it’s a bit risky, but last-minute study, what to do? =b    
Moral (Sorry, I don’t know about agama Islam):
·         Well, remember your DEFINISI!
·         Do your exercises and past years (trials) properly. If you are too lazy to write whole essays, at least do in point form so that you can go through them before the exams.
·         I don’t know what format they require you to do this year, but make sure you know the correct way of answering. Listen to the teachers’ instructions!
Accounts:
·         Practice makes perfect. 
·         Be careful in calculations. Don’t panic when you can’t balance your account. Skip and leave it first , then come back if you have the time.
BIO, Chemistry, Physics:
·         Do past years papers. 
·         Write precise and concise answers, straight to the point.
Chinese 
·         For most of you, Chinese will be the last paper. Don’t WASTE the given time, use that time fully to read more essays and look through exercises.  
Essay:
·         Don’t take 剪报 and 日记for granted.
·         Read sample essay. For the first essay question, you might find it useful to read texts from the Paper 2 comprehension questions because they provide some interesting stories with moral values.  
·         Remember the format for letters, notices, etc
名句精华:
·         Remember the proverbs and meanings. I don’t realy care much about 出处 , just have some rough knowledge about them. 
文言文:
·         Do more exercises, look at sample questions.

SPM TIPS

REPOST FROM 25 SEPT 2011

Hi guys! For those who don't  know me, I just completed my SPM in 2010 and recently started college. Last week I promised to post on SPM Tips and I know some of you have been waiting. I'm terribly sorry for the delay. PMR is in 8 days and SPM is in a month. I still remember the feeling weeks before SPM. I would NOT look a the countdown if possible because it makes me nervous. I just basically know how many weeks left and just focus on what else I need to do before the big day instead of making myself all worried. For my trials, I got 8A's 1B ( B for Physics) so I was asking myself: " Can I get straight A's or not?" With the new system of A+ A and A- which was implemented 2 years ago, it makes the whole thing a lot more stressful I agreed. But! That is not a reason to not excel. It should be a motivator to strive harder. Yes, nothing is easy in life. Even now, I'm doing my A Levels and I am not going to say it is easy because that's not true. Everywhere you go, anything you do, there are challenges but we need to learn to overcome those challenges and not give in to them. If you are doing something and feel no challenge at all, it means you are not using your full capabilities to the max. Just saying# Thats a bad sign.

Alright. Let's begin. My sister is also taking her SPM this year ( we are only a year apart) so I know the recent updates for SPM students. In this 1 month, the first thing you have to do is get a piece of paper and write down all the subjects you are taking. Leave some spaces in between . Then list down ALL the things you need to do for that particular subject before SPM. Remember to write every little detail and do not even leave out a single thing. After you get everything out of your mind, you're done with Step 1. 

Example: 

Add Math- Check all formulas ( Form 4 and 5)
                - Do all past year paper
                - Do Soalan Negeri Lain
               - Focus on * (a chapter that you are weak in)
               - Remember to bring 2 calculators, protractor, ruler, compass, flexible ruler if needed

Chemistry-  Review all definition and equation and important diagrams!! ( For example Dehydration        process is a popular diagram under Chapter 3 Form 5)
                - Do all past year paper
                - Do Soalan Negeri Lain
                - Remember colour of metals and Electrochemical series of metal (position of H )

English -  Do all past year paper ( For essay not very important to do past year paper because they will not repeat the same question)
           - Do Soalan Negeri Lain ( Do all parts of the paper- especially negeri Kelantan, Tganu, Perak, Johor)
           - Remember format of essay ( for Directed Writing, follow sequence of points given)
           - Memorise important idioms and nice descriptive words ( not many but at least a few)
           - Read novel, poetry and do practice

Do the list on your own because only you know what you need to do. You can ask me if you are not sure. Once you have done this, you will definitely feel a little relief because you see what you need to do on a paper and you can cancel once you're done. It will not all be in your head anymore. 

Next, start doing your work. Don't get distracted by unnecessary things. I admit last year at this time I had to sacrifice some things like missing some fun event or going jalan raya. Make some sacrifices, pray, fast for Muslims and ask God with a humble heart to make it easier for you, to keep you from feeling scared, to give you the confidence and to help you remember what you have studied and answer the SPM questions. To be honest, I did not actually have a timetable. I just write down what I had to do. After I was done with that each day, then yaay! 

Be discipline and watch your time. I'm not the type who would stay up late at night to study. Ill wake up after morning prayers at 6 and study, nap in the evening if Im tired for 1 hour. Then sleep at about 1130. I do go out often to be honest but I try not to when SPMs around the corner. If I do go out, Ill bring something I can read along the way or Ill sacrifice the night to study. The day before my Chemistry exam, I actually went shopping for shoes...urgh I remember the guilt... but prepare early. It is NOT too late ever. SPM is not the end of everything. You have a long journey of life ahead. Stay happy and just give your best. If you have given your best, thats all that matters.

 If there's anything else you need to know, feel free to bug me. I totally don't mind hehe :D All the best!



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Monday, November 7, 2016

Motivating Yourself When Life or Studying Feels Difficult

REPOST from 4 NOVEMBER 2016

Dear all, 
I am writing this especially for SPM students who are having SPM this Wednesday. But I didn't want to put SPM tips for my blog title because this motivation is for everybody, regardless whether you are sitting for an exam next week or not.

First, I want you to think back at the time life felt challenging. Think of what you did, how you dealt with it. Next think of your wonderful achievements. Helping someone in need is also considered a big achievement in my opinion. Finally, think of somebody else's life challenges. Something much worse than yours, a tragic death, war, illness and natural disasters. Your mind will automatically tell you that your problem seems trivial. In the case you are experiencing one of the worse, please bear in mind that God will not test you with something you cannot cope.

Before I go further, let me tell you a story about myself.

 This weekend was one of the most challenging for me. I am sick and I have a lot of work due. Despite my sickness, I still need to cook and take my medicine. Then suddenly I realised that I'm running out of grocery and I feel too tired to cook. I ate my medicine and tried to study and do my work but I couldn't as the medicine made me drowsy. I didn't want to sleep because I wanted to finish my work and battling my tired feelings and keeping awake me made me feel miserable. So then I thought of not eating my medicine so I wouldn't be sleepy but that made me feel more sick. Most of the first years were going out, joining events etc and some did not even do the homeworks yet. Finally my mum and my <3 made me realise what I was doing to myself.  They gave me the most moral support I could ever ever ask for. I started to realise I was putting it too hard on myself, trying to do everything (including things that were not on priority list). It was like my inner self was saying "I'm sick I want to rest. I have studied too much, I want to do something else." But my mind was ignoring the remarks and didn't consider any of it much. My mum reminded me how much I like blogging and that's what encouraged me to write right now :) 

When you are in a top school, the feeling you get is much different. More sacrifice comes along with being in a world's top school. But hey do you remember that diamonds ( the best rocks in the world) are formed under high pressure? So whenever you feel pressure imagine yourself as a diamond in the making ;) Pressure just makes you stronger and better, you just need to know how to loosen up and overcome it. I guess so far my work has been mostly manageable but some things like programming can be totally hard that I'm completely lost because we were expected to know how to do it WITHOUT being taught. These are the times people in normal schools will feel thankful. That's why we have pros and cons either way :) But if you ask me do I like my classes and education here. Definitely YES, the geology department is amazing. We study different rocks and minerals in practical class. The department makes us feel so welcomed and at times we just get motivating emails from lecturers saying "You guys did amazing! Great job well done in..... I'm so proud of you". They never fail to remind us about every tiny little thing and help us, responding to our emails within minutes, giving us free geological kits and even a free reading week every term so no class! No other department except for Earth Science and Chemistry and Mechanical Engineering has reading week. I do have 6 modules this Autumn Term until first week of December. In other universities you normally have 2 or 3 only. That is not including my independent 3000 essay to submit by March, my extra subject - Global Challenges, my workshop twice a week, club meetings and etc. Busy right? hehe
Well yeah, these are challenges of being a student. 



 Kensington Palace

Wanna hear about fun stuff? Ok well I went to Hyde Park with my <3 to feed the ducks and took my new teddy bear in my handbag. He left it on my kitchen counter while I was making breakfast and I was surprised to see it there. Plus, it had a hoodie! As if it can feel that its getting cold here in London,sooo cute >.< Then last Friday we had a  surprise for my friend at Hummingbird Cake Shop. We divided a rich red velvet cake into 7 slices so one piece was like 5 cm thick ;) Then we went to Bayswater to eat dinner at Khan's. The benefit of being in London is that everything is near you. Today there was a charity event "Smoky Not Smudgy" for females and they had so many things going on from muslimah fashion shows, cake making, threading, facial, make up, massage, hijab for sale, jewellery, cupcakes and etc. I had the 15 minute massage for 7 pounds just now and wanted to do threading but the lady had left. Then my friend and I went to the 
library and my mummy actually ordered pizza for me all the way from Malaysia. The love of a mother is too great <3 she wanted to help me because I was sick and that was really touching to come back from the charity event, getting a call that pizza was downstairs. 






My conclusion here is that for all of you facing any difficulties, let the bright side of life dominate your heart, mind and soul. They always say 'look at the bright side' but the true fact is that you can see the 'dark/difficult side' too. And you can't escape that. Just like you can't escape your exams. I remember how afraid I felt because I wanted to get all A+ but something I must say that in the exam hall, don't think of that. You can ONLY think of that  while you are studying, not while you are doing exams. In exam hall, your goal must be to answer ALL questions and also remember what you study. Thinking that 'I want to get all A+ ' will just make you panic especially at last minute. While I was doing my SPM paper, I didnt think of getting a high grade but I was more focusing on being able to answer ALL questions and remember what I learned. InsyaAllah my answer will be accepted. So you need to do the same. 


From the story I told you I actually wrote it in a sequence. The unhappy part, happy part, motivating part and how I dealed with it today. I would honestly say I am proud of myself for adapting quite well here insyaAllah. Before I came here, I didn't expect myself to adapt this easily because its my first time living independently very far away from home. I talked to my friend, Scott who lives opposite my room and he said he could never do it, even for a guy. He lives just 40 minutes away and he feels the challenge too. He even said that I'm very brave. For now, I'm thankful to Allah for planning it for me and making it easier as with His plans, I just live across the road to class hehe and also have my <3 near me and super amazing corridor friends, although some guys turn on the music too loud at times, I'm really happy to be around the poeple here now. In class 85 people is just too many and even in a month, I dont exactly remember seeing everyone and hope to know more people. Of course I know all the Malaysian, Brunei and Chinese which are all guys and 2 girls including me.


Being here also made me discover my cooking talent, says my <3 so I'm not being perasan :) I took a picture of most of the dishes I made and will blog on that soon when I have more pictures to post. 

At the end of this post, I would like you too see that life gets better. After hard times comes a beautiful rainbow. After a storm comes a sunny day. After SPM comes 'Exams are over' days. So while you are at it, cheer up, smile and study till that day comes.. Pray whenever you feel down or stressed then continue work again. Exercise and relax, eat well, study, Allah will do the rest.

For those who were awaiting my response for SPM tips, I just replied before writing this post. You can go and check my comments. I'm truly sorry that some were super long ago. If there's anything urgent you need to know before Wednesday, do comment here or write in my chatbox by Tueday,Malaysian time 4am, I will try my best to reply asap.

All the best, my prayers are with you. Take care and have a very pleasant week ahead :)

SPM Tips: Don't Let a Hard Paper Demotivate You

REPOST FROM 7 November 2013

Dear SPM students,

I'm very glad to hear your response because I would have no idea that BM paper was hard if you guys (Lyana)  didn't tell me.

First thing I want to say is that if I was in your position, I would be VERY thankful to get a difficult paper. yes, in exam halls you feel that you want to answer ALL questions accurately. When something makes you feel stuck, you have doubts and start to worry. My advice is that: Please just continue answering how your teacher, tuition centre, penceramah, anyone who has taught you. Just follow and continue answering the question no matter how hard it is. DONT STOP or WORRY. Be confident. Say in your mind " I have studied so I can definitely answer (insyaAllah) because if someone who studies can't answer, then how about the rest of the candidates?" Of course they can't make everybody fail. Certain people must get an A, and did you know if the average highest mark is 40% in the entire country then that can be considered an A too, so do not worry. Just selawat and read prayers when you get nervous.

Try not to think about anything except the exam paper at that time. My dear juniors, I remember how nervous I was for some papers until my hands were sweating and I had to bring a tissue. Even people who get all A+ are nervous and worried and scared. They feel the same as you do. When I finished a paper, I was thinking "was my essay good enough?", then I checked the answer for objective question, then suddenly I discovered that one of my answer was wrong, then I felt down. However, I promised myself not to check the answers after that. But but but, if you havent finished Biology paper for example, in my opinion, its ok to check after that particular paper. For example, you just finished Paper 2 but you still have Paper 1 and 3. Its ok to check answers. Why? If you know the mistake you did, it will help you NOT to repeat the mistakes in the subsequent papers. Don't let a wrong answer demotivate you but make that your motivation to score higher in the next paper. You will feel this strong 'semangat' telling yourself, I already got that answer wrong, let me compensate the marks in the following papers.


If you stressed, look at cute pictures like this! He is here to cheer you up. Go SPM :D


To the person, who said they are having so many problems right now. I just want to say that : everybody has problems. Some people hide it, some people share it publicly, some people keep it to themselves or share with certain people. You need to remember that you are not alone. I'm very sure that some people even experience the same/ similar problem as you. When we have a big problem, its normal to have this feeling that nobody else in the world has this problem. You tell yourself you are the only one and that makes you feel worse. Perhaps, other people are experiencing it too but you don't know. I have no right to tell you whther your problem is trivial or big. But what I can say is that every problem will be solved. How? Who? The only answer is 'you'. With motivation and a strong spirit ( prayers are very important), no matter how much another person tries to persuade you that everything will be ok, it is your mind, your heart and your soul who will decide whether to agree or disagree. Of course you need another person to share your feelings and to give you that moral support and compassion. BDefinitut in the end, you are the one who decides if you are happy or not. Nobody else. People can have the best brains, best body, best face, best life, best everything but if their heart, mind and soul are unhappy, nothing people say or do can change that. 

Sometimes I feel very down, more than you can imagine. I'll listen to music.During SPM, I used to have a playlist. Bila study till late night ( when its too quiet) or if I'm sleepy I'll drink coffee or listen to music. It helps :) Now I don't really like to turn on music when I study. Those were SPM days ;) Or during my Alevels I used to watch Laugh Gags. Ease the stress guys, don't over-study, relax, exams are not everything. I heard about the student who passed away 30 minutes after BM exam..al Fatihah. She was sufferering chestpain, back aches and dizziness for a week. Its not good to be too stressed, something I always try to remind myself. To me, I would rank health above study or work, She just started her first exam paper and didn't have a chance to complete the paper or the rest of her life. Its very touching. 

If you can't study anymore, just stop. Continue later. Don't say that other people are busy studying or compare how much you've done to others. Every person has their own limitations. 

to Cat Girl: Definition of a best essay differs for English and BM. For BM, the length of your essay is important. For English, not making grammatical errors is the key. Both require oragnised points. Starting from the main point, explanation, examples, idioms, proverbs, more explanation, conclusion for each paragraph. Also a good essay has an introduction that pulls the reader to read more as well as a conclusion that makes the reader agree with the whole idea of the essay or feel an impact. You must answer the question of the essay and give relevant points and you need to write within given time. All of these criterias make the best essay :)

I know that most of you are working hard and may Allah grant you the best insyaAllah. Dont worry too much k? 

Best wishes from me

xoxo


Monday, October 31, 2016

Motivation of the Week- Being Kind to Yourself

Dear all,


Greetings from London. Today marks exactly 4 weeks since I returned and I am so thankful for all the things I have done and accomplished within these 28 days. Alhamdulillah



I know SPM is around the corner and thought of dropping a few motivation words for all of you. This is applicable to anyone who is approaching exam season or generally anything that challenges you at this point in time. Once again, motivation if not a one-off thing, you need it constantly for your soul just how you need food. If you are always problem-free with no motivation needed at all, then there may be an issue and worth looking into. Yes, it could be that point in life when all is going well and you are on cloud nine (weeeeee) and that is perfectly fine. What is also ok is if suddenly things change and things do not go as planned or if you have to deal with something that you dislike. I mean nobody likes to be in that sort of situation. Its frustrating, disappointing, upsetting and all the negative things you can think of. Sometimes it also shakes your confidence. However, what I would like to highlight today is that you can only do what you can. As simple as it sounds, seriously, you can only do what you are capable of. This does not mean that you cannot stretch your capabilities, of course you should be giving your best and working hard and smart at it but also remember to be kind to yourself and be contented with what ever you are capable doing. Avoid criticising or being unreasonable with what you expect yourself to do. You know yourself best, nobody else. Challenging yourself to do something difficult and being able to accomplish it will boost your confidence but there will be points before reaching there that you will question if you will be able to do this. And that is ok. Stay confident, be kind to yourself, look at the positive things and benefits of the situation and do not underestimate lessons you learned related to character building. Sometimes if I face a difficult situation and I ask myself, what did I gain out of this? A quick answer would be to say 'Nothing, mostly increased stress.' But one second, it did help in character building. It helped in terms of increasing your patience, perseverance and professional skills, problem solving skills, communicating with a difficult person skill and critical thinking. 



It is easy to forget to be kind to yourself, I experience that too sometimes. But do remember to reward yourself after accomplishing something, do not wait for others to reward you or compliment you. The best you can give yourself is sometimes self-appreciation. Remember to acknowledge yourself, tell yourself you did a great job. Write it down if it helps in your diary, explaining how you did a wonderful job today. It was hard but you managed to get through it with a positive attitude. Great achievement indeed! Being kind and acknowledging yourself will boost your self-esteem and confidence in a way that you believe that you are capable of doing something but at the same time you should not add any element of comparing yourself with another. That can be one of the most painful things that crushes the confidence you build up. Be confident with yourself without needing to compare yourself with another not only helps you to be kind to others, it also avoids you from turning that confidence to arrogance or snobbish behaviour. When you feel you are higher than everybody else, that is when confidence turns to arrogance. If you feel confident within yourself and with the capabilities you have then without any reference to another being, that confidence turns into positive energy and compassion for others which will benefit you inside out. The most beautiful character is one that has a clean heart. It is not easy to achieve this. People are easily jealous by the smallest thing, hate others for no reason, upset for the most trivial issues and complain about everything. Little did people realise that their negative energy against another being hurts themselves more than anybody else. They are being too hard on themselves by putting too high expectations from other people. It is not easy, it takes practice to achieve a state of a cleansed heart. As long as you are aiming for something and work hard towards it, you will achieve a part of it if not completely. This is something I always remind myself. If I am trying to achieve something and not sure if I will achieve it, I will tell myself this over and over again. I will achieve part of it even if not completely as long as I continue aiming and working hard towards it. 



Ok so let me cut this short and summarise how you can be kind to yourself:


  • Reward yourself after achieving something even if it is something small but if it took a lot of energy and effort doing, then it certainly is worth while rewarding yourself. It could be something simple like your favourite ice cream or dessert or getting a new dress or shoes or even a reward to go out for a movie or eat at a fancy restaurant with friends

  •  Say kind things to yourself, its the inner voice that sometimes gives the worse critics. If you think negative, immediately look at the positive side of the situation or if there is none to think of, think of something great you have achieved or something fun to look forward to

  •  Give yourself reasonable expectations. If you have a to-do list, be reasonable on what you are able to achieve within a day or so. If you are not sure, then do the best you can and do not be disheartened if you are not able to do everything. Instead focus on what you have done. The glass is half full is better to say than half empty. It all about perspective

  • Be thankful for simple things in life. Be thankful for your good health today, healthy body and being able to wake up to having food and clean water. Having you and your loved ones safe and having somewhere comfortable to live. The other day I woke up in the morning and went to the kitchen to make breakfast. I found a cute little ladybug in the kitchen! It immediately lifted my mood and made me so happy. Plus I looked outside the kitchen window and saw the sky so beautiful and said to myself, thank you God for letting me live another day and creating the beauty in this world. That little lady bug must have not known that I had a stressful day the day before but its innocent presence the following morning just added reasons for me to stay content and remind me of the simplest things in life that can keep us happy.

  • Do what you enjoy. As subjective as this sounds, you are sometimes bound to doing things that you do not completely enjoy. That is absolutely normal and everyone faces it at some point in life. What is important is to do something about it in mature and tactful manner. Sometimes people do not enjoy their job but are bounded by contract. Some people do not enjoy what they study but have paid tuition fees and not able to change. For me, I did not enjoy one aspect of my course and I recognised it at an early stage during my first year of degree, 3 years ago. I made sure that I did enough research, spoke to people in both the area I enjoyed and did not enjoy, read about options, discussed with important people that are involved in my decision making, consider working options and finally made a decision. It does not matter really if you are in the majority or minority but what matters is to listen to your needs and be kind to yourself. I am being completely, 150% honest that if you ask me today, almost 3 years later, what do I think about the decision I made? I am so content and proud of myself that I decided to make that decision, no regrets at all but everytime I find myself often saying, 'I am so lucky that I decided to make that decision.' And I genuinely am thankful that I did. I am confident if I had to do the other option, I would have been fine but I would not have enjoyed it as much as other people did. I enjoy the route that I chose and happy that I had the confidence to voice out my opinion and make a change. Well done to the first year me :)

  • Always find reasons to be thankful and not reasons to complain. It helps a lot. Write a list if you prefer. Motivate yourself consistently, do not underestimate the power of self-motivation.

  •  In the end, there is a superior power than oneself and that is God. Believe in Him once you have done your part. I trust that He will arrange things in the best way that it should be for each of us. There will be things we like or dislike at first but He knows us best and is the best Planner. Trust Him and He will manage the rest for you.


May this article help motivate you and spread the positive energy from me. Have a beautiful week ahead :) Till my next post, take care x 



Sunday, October 23, 2016

Simple Beauty Tips at Home

THIS IS A REPOST, ORIGINAL BLOG POST WRITTEN ON JAN 1, 2012

Ever seen a couple where the female is super duper gorgeous and the guy is yeah...(no comment) ok-la. 'She' dressed up just to impress him  but 'he' is pretty chilled.  Did you know for animals its the opposite?? The males are much more pretty and colorful  than the female. They try to impress the female.That was really funny :P


Favourite quote: A person's value lies deeper than skin-deep beauty. It is what's inside their heart that matters most...

Beauty is something really subjective. What appears beautiful to an individual may not be as breath-taking to another. In the end, you stick to the proverb : Beauty lies in the hand of the beholder. 

For a teen like me, my mom doesn't think its right to spend loads of $$$$$ at the spa or saloon or doing facial treatment so i'll teach you how to do it ALL at home. One exception, if you don't have a maid or if you're maid is lazy to massage you all the time and you have backaches often, then a spa/massage would do or at least a massaging machine.

Let's see. I'll divide this into several sections so you can choose which applies to you; 
  1. Facial - Eyes, Blackheads, Pimples, Lips, Eyebrows
  2. Hair care
  3. Nails
  4. Diet
  5. Exercise

FACIAL

The face is your main aset for looking beautiful. I mean that's what people look at first. First, make sure you wash your face at least one time a day. Best time is before sleeping. Don't wash your face right after sweating a lot or when you're face is red/hot.  Use a suitable face wash; ive tried so many Olay makes my skin  itch, Clean and clear makes my face more oily, Safi makes it reddish, and etc. Finally now im  using Oxy face wash with microbeads to clean blackheads. oh and remember to check on your label! Some face washes cannot be used daily like Omegatrend facewash. So if your the type that needs a twice a day face wash, get one that says: Use when necessary or daily wash. 

For blackheads, I use those strips. Biore' has the nose strips for blackheads at a reasonable price. I can get one pack at RM11. Don't touch your face especially the T-zone with dirty hands. For me, every single time I reach home I'll wash my hands with soap.( it doesn't matter whether you just washed 10 minutes ago or so but do it immediately when you reach home). Try this and see that the water will be greyish/ black. Imagine if you touched your face? Thats where the dirt all came from. 



For pimples, ok let me share with you something. Last year, around exam season my forehead was a pimple plantation or maybe that's what my sister liked to call it. Yucky :P For maximum pimple protection, try using OXY 10 Vanishing Formula, written "maximum strength acne-pimple medication".
# Take note: Oxy 5 is not as strong as Oxy 10. For immediate reaction, Oxy 10 works best but please don't apply more than once a day. It really stings *ouch*





For the eyebags, place a cucumber or a used teabag on the eye for 10-15mins. I also tried the Garnier eyebag roller but I'm not following the prescription, so im not the right person to judge that product.

Tips: Don't apply too much chemicals to skin to obtain radiating effects. It won't work and if it does its just temporary. Natural methods work better.

HAIR CARE
When I was small, my mum used to put Indian oil on my hair, I don't remember the name but all i know is that the oil was green in colour. Everyday without fail, my mum would put it on for me. She said its good to make your hair shine and also to obtain thick, black hair. I was lazy most of the times so she would tell me of the positive effects and make me sit down quietly. As a result, my hair became really thick and straight and black and i liked it. However, when i came to Malaysia the humidity and weather change made my hair texture change. If you learn Biology, its called Continuous Variation caused by environmental factors. So at certain parts of my hair like the front and side, it became frizzy and even curly. At Standard 6 (Grade 6) I did my first rebonding at my regular hair salon in Bukit Indah called Lela Indah. Loved the effect and as the years went by i touched up the rebonding parts at Derrick and Team Hair Stylist which was much cheaper. RM 99 to touch up. When you do rebonding, the hair gets very dry SO everytime I wash I use shampoo, conditioner and hair serum. 3 compulsory things for each wash. I don't wash my hair everyday because its unhealthy for my type of hair. I have to apply lots of chemicals so thats why i don't wash on a daily basis. To be honest, the conditioner reaaaallly works. I didn't do this earlier but when I did, I could see the effects right away.

The serum I use are Sassy Treatment Shine Serum or Natural : Revive Repair Essence.

Oh you wanna know something!  I used to use Coconut Milk on my hair. It provides a moisturising effect naturally but its so messy and I cant move without getting sth milkified so i stopped using that.

NAIL
About nails, my mum used to polish them when we were small. My sister and I had a giant bag of colorful nail polish and we would choose what colour to wear each week to school. Schools at America allow nail polish as well as long nails. When I came here, I had to put a stop sign to all that. In fact, I was looking forward or wearing a uniform to school. It seemed so cool. My sister especially was super excited about the whole uniform is compulsory thing in Malaysia. I mean we never ever had that in America but then now we're so used to it already. Back to nails, I usually do manicure once a month, then i wash it off after I can pray again and let it grow naturally. When i cut it, follow  the lines  and i don't cut it all off. You will see that the shape is maintained when it grows again and it can last for a month or more. When i was in primary school, of course i didnt go for mani pedi so i just bought the ' Nail File' , the 3 in 1 set for Trim, Conditioner and Shine. Hey nails have conditioners too you know *winks That works too!

SKIN

For skin i don't have to say it. You all know the answer right? LOTION
For some reason, im addicted to lotion for as long as my memory could remember. I don't remember a time that i was not using it. Its been in my life like forever so please don't try and separate us. Haha 
Here are some suggestions: Try Vaseline Cucumber and Aloe Vera Extract( good for moisturising skin) OR Fruit of the Earth Vitamin E (good for getting rid of scars and even complextion).

Diet
I don't diet and not planning to do so a.t.m. but here's a good tip. Eat punctually at normal times for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Don't eat too late for dinner.If you forgot to eat early then just eat biscuits or light bread. When you eat all the main meals you'll realise you eat less junk food. Junk food is what contributes to excess fat actually, not the chicken or meat or rice. Drink lots of water. For me, i don't usually drink sweet drinks on normal days. I only drink if i eat at a restaurant or in the weekends. Since my dad had a garden when i was young, im used to replacing salad for snacks. Here is how I make it:
  • Get a cup of plain yoghurt (the sour one without sugar). Cut tomatoes into small pieces and dump them in the yoghurt. Done!

  • Another way is buy cutting any veggie you like. Cucumbertomatoes, lettucecarrot. Then mix them together, add fresh lemon/lime juice and add salt for better taste. If you like dressing, then you can add Thousand Island or so but i don't like dressing. I like it just like that. Bon apetite!

EXERCISE

 Hmm this is the hardest part, aint it? I find it hard too to be honest with you. So you know what i do? I buy an exercise CD and keep it at home. Don't buy the long, lengthy ones if you're lazy. Mine is just less than 15 mins and its called Super Stomachs by Denise Austin and I follow her steps to exercising. It doesn't get bored too when you have music and someone to guide you. When there's a will there's a way. So go and exercise now. In her CD, she keeps on motivating us like " You gotta keep going if you want that flat tummy."

Looking beautiful may not because you want to impress someone but it may be of a simple reason that you want to care for your own body and health so that it is always in the best condition:)


 Last tip: Let's be stress-FREE. It is not impossible to have no stress at all but let's reduce unnecessary worries and SMILE :D :D 


Read up and hope my tips work for you!