Confidence in Yourself
Dear all,
Today I chose this motivation topic because I believe that confidence plays a vital role in any part of your life and like always, I enjoy writing a topic that many people can relate to.
Whenever people hear the word confidence, they immediately imagine giving a speech on stage. Well, that's a good one but what people do not realise is that confidence involves very little things like feeling appreciated at home and the ability to speak out your feelings to another individual. Or feeling that you are accepted or rejected by the society, your family or friends can also play around with your confidence. It doesn't have to be something big. For instance, someone ignores you or excludes you from an outing. You can easily feel rejected and your confidence zooms down. Confidence is something that varies from time to time and also depends on the situation. Its not exactly right to classify a person as confident because he/she may be confident to speak on stage but not very confident to socialise. What's important here is to ensure that your confidence level is balanced and to give it a boost everytime it drops. I don't fancy people who make themselves confident by feeling superior to others. Yes, confidence is feeling good about yourself but that doesn't mean that it needs to involve the credibility of other people. If you always use other people to measure how good you are, you won't go too far because you are putting that person as the limit. Push your limits and try not to compare too much. Yes, there will be people in this world much much smarter than you and no matter how hard you try, it would be a supreme challenge to reach their level but should this lower your confidence? NOPE :) Everybody has their talents, strengths and weaknesses. They may be super good in their career, work, studies but how about their personal life? How about expanding their talents like do they learn music, play sports or ( whatever your talent is) like you? Or if you feel like you do not have any talent but you have a good relationship with people and God, then that is a big achievement. Does that other person have special relationship like that? Or does their life revolve around 1 particular thing.
At times, your confidence is challenged when everybody else does something that you do not do. Let me give an example to make this easier to explain. When I first reached UK, I was really looking forward to the ice breaking session and when I got to know it actually involved drinking and partying at the bar, I knew I was not going definitely. Most people did, the locals mostly. I waited for a week to see if there was going to be any other interesting activity but no. Just partying, drinking, pub crawling that sort of thing. Finally I stopped hoping because by the end of the month, I realised that this partying and drinking is going to last forever. Whenever there is a prize-giving or something, the prize is sometimes a bottle of wine, beer, champagne, alcohol. Its a shame how they assume that everybody drinks, well I guess the majority of them of course. However, you need to have a stand. If you do not drink, then you don't. Not even a little. Even if 90% of the people around you do something that you do not do, having a strong stand can really boost your confidence. If you just go with the follow and do it to fit in and not because you like to do it, your confidence level will drop and you will be worried that they will find out that you are not acting like your true self. I personally do not like this getting drunk environment, I have no intention to offend anybody and respect people's opinion and that certainly doesn't mean I hate people who do so. Not at all. But that's my stand and for me to respect people who behave differently, I believe that they should respect it when people think otherwise as well.
Nobody is perfect and at times, you weakness can make you lose you confidence slightly. Cheer up and learn to laugh at yourself. Don't take life too seriously all the time and do not be too hard on yourself. If you say something wrongly and somebody corrects it, say thank you and learn from it. If it was funny, laugh along. Don't think "OMG why am I making a silly mistake", because the person who corrected you is not perfect themselves and may have once made some silly mistakes as well.
Finally, having confidence in yourself helps a lot in exams, interviews or presentations, etc. Once you have prepared, just go for it. Remember that you have prepared and you will give your best. Having confidence is linked to a positive attitude. At times, having too low confidence may affect your performance negatively. You are prepared and will do good, but because you keep telling yourself that you will not, the brain believes it and fails to behave normally. When you receive the result of your interview, test, etc, if they respond negatively or do not offer you a position, then do not feel disheartened. Always remember that it may not be because of your performance but because they had limited spaces and that they were filled by people who had priority or more experienced in ways that you are yet to achieve. It had nothing with you not being good enough and take that as a learning experience. Whenever you apply for something and do not get it, its a good idea to always think that it was not meant for you and it was good practice for whatever that is coming your way soon. :) Always trust that God had good plans for you. And not achieving something you really hoped for may actually lead to another door that is more beneficial and more interesting.
Have confidence and try not to let anything mentioned above to demotivate you or push down your confidence. Believe in yourself because if you do not, then nobody will.
Have a pleasant weekend and hope you enjoyed reading!
Today I chose this motivation topic because I believe that confidence plays a vital role in any part of your life and like always, I enjoy writing a topic that many people can relate to.
Whenever people hear the word confidence, they immediately imagine giving a speech on stage. Well, that's a good one but what people do not realise is that confidence involves very little things like feeling appreciated at home and the ability to speak out your feelings to another individual. Or feeling that you are accepted or rejected by the society, your family or friends can also play around with your confidence. It doesn't have to be something big. For instance, someone ignores you or excludes you from an outing. You can easily feel rejected and your confidence zooms down. Confidence is something that varies from time to time and also depends on the situation. Its not exactly right to classify a person as confident because he/she may be confident to speak on stage but not very confident to socialise. What's important here is to ensure that your confidence level is balanced and to give it a boost everytime it drops. I don't fancy people who make themselves confident by feeling superior to others. Yes, confidence is feeling good about yourself but that doesn't mean that it needs to involve the credibility of other people. If you always use other people to measure how good you are, you won't go too far because you are putting that person as the limit. Push your limits and try not to compare too much. Yes, there will be people in this world much much smarter than you and no matter how hard you try, it would be a supreme challenge to reach their level but should this lower your confidence? NOPE :) Everybody has their talents, strengths and weaknesses. They may be super good in their career, work, studies but how about their personal life? How about expanding their talents like do they learn music, play sports or ( whatever your talent is) like you? Or if you feel like you do not have any talent but you have a good relationship with people and God, then that is a big achievement. Does that other person have special relationship like that? Or does their life revolve around 1 particular thing.
At times, your confidence is challenged when everybody else does something that you do not do. Let me give an example to make this easier to explain. When I first reached UK, I was really looking forward to the ice breaking session and when I got to know it actually involved drinking and partying at the bar, I knew I was not going definitely. Most people did, the locals mostly. I waited for a week to see if there was going to be any other interesting activity but no. Just partying, drinking, pub crawling that sort of thing. Finally I stopped hoping because by the end of the month, I realised that this partying and drinking is going to last forever. Whenever there is a prize-giving or something, the prize is sometimes a bottle of wine, beer, champagne, alcohol. Its a shame how they assume that everybody drinks, well I guess the majority of them of course. However, you need to have a stand. If you do not drink, then you don't. Not even a little. Even if 90% of the people around you do something that you do not do, having a strong stand can really boost your confidence. If you just go with the follow and do it to fit in and not because you like to do it, your confidence level will drop and you will be worried that they will find out that you are not acting like your true self. I personally do not like this getting drunk environment, I have no intention to offend anybody and respect people's opinion and that certainly doesn't mean I hate people who do so. Not at all. But that's my stand and for me to respect people who behave differently, I believe that they should respect it when people think otherwise as well.
Nobody is perfect and at times, you weakness can make you lose you confidence slightly. Cheer up and learn to laugh at yourself. Don't take life too seriously all the time and do not be too hard on yourself. If you say something wrongly and somebody corrects it, say thank you and learn from it. If it was funny, laugh along. Don't think "OMG why am I making a silly mistake", because the person who corrected you is not perfect themselves and may have once made some silly mistakes as well.
Finally, having confidence in yourself helps a lot in exams, interviews or presentations, etc. Once you have prepared, just go for it. Remember that you have prepared and you will give your best. Having confidence is linked to a positive attitude. At times, having too low confidence may affect your performance negatively. You are prepared and will do good, but because you keep telling yourself that you will not, the brain believes it and fails to behave normally. When you receive the result of your interview, test, etc, if they respond negatively or do not offer you a position, then do not feel disheartened. Always remember that it may not be because of your performance but because they had limited spaces and that they were filled by people who had priority or more experienced in ways that you are yet to achieve. It had nothing with you not being good enough and take that as a learning experience. Whenever you apply for something and do not get it, its a good idea to always think that it was not meant for you and it was good practice for whatever that is coming your way soon. :) Always trust that God had good plans for you. And not achieving something you really hoped for may actually lead to another door that is more beneficial and more interesting.
Have confidence and try not to let anything mentioned above to demotivate you or push down your confidence. Believe in yourself because if you do not, then nobody will.
Have a pleasant weekend and hope you enjoyed reading!
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