Saturday, February 13, 2016

Improving Your Love Life

Dear all,

How is everyone doing? Oh how I miss writing here, I seriously have been absorbed in my world of studies and the life of being in London that I have had less quiet, free time to be able to blog. I am so happy to write and hope everyone is doing very well.

I do not know where to start. As for my life updates, this is my third year in the UK alhamdulillah and I am enjoying it more and more. You know like one of those situations when you don't really appreciate it too much at first then you learn to like it and actually grow fonder of the thing/person/ place? That's exactly how I feel being here in this beautiful country where I have learned to be more independent and nurture myself. 

Although I have grown fonder of being here, it does not mean that I miss my loved ones less. I actually had a dream last night being at my grandma's house and having the toddler version of my baby brother on my lap while watching TV. You know how adults generally stay or look the same but little kids grow so fast, my mind is taking quite some time to absorb the fact that he is a young boy now and not a little baby anymore hehe. 

Speaking of loved ones, today's topic is going to be around this theme. Plus, Valentine's day is just around the corner. If you read my short story that got a little extra attention a couple of years ago: Teenage Life is Full of Drama, then you know I have a tendency to post a love-themed post in February. 

Exactly a week from today, its going to be three years since I first dated my <3. I will be referring to that symbol and I guess most of you know what I mean. Alhamdulillah, I am always thankful and feel blessed for that. If you know me well, you will know that I am not a person who speaks or elaborates too much on the topic unless asked. It makes me a bit embarrassed but today I think it is important that I mention this because there may be some women out there who  might benefit from this sharing. 

I have never been in a relationship before this although maybe scandals, teenage drama things like this. Studying and family are my priority as well as my close friends and I did not want somebody to change that. If anybody asked me "when do you think you will have a boyfriend", I would say most probably when I start working or maybe during university, I am not too sure. But what I believe is that just like a butterfly that only lands on you when you are not watching, I relate this to meeting your soulmate as well. It usually happens when you least expect it to be and with an open and mature mind, more good will come out of it than bad. If you ask me about the ideal age about being in a relationship (please do not get offended people as this is only my personal opinion and it could be different ages for different people), I would say its not the age that matters but the level of maturity and that differs for different people but generally people are more mature in their 20s. I know some people who have been in a stable relationship in their teens and have it work well but those are a few lucky, rare ones. I personally was too busy with my study life and juggling with all my other activities like drama, debate, family, prefect, prefectorial board, sports, extra classes and many more so I didn't see myself being in a relationship that time. Plus, I was only interested in serious relationships and being in that situation too early would be overwhelming. 

The main problem I realise that some women face is that they do not have a stand and their own firm, opinion about things, letting others make the decision for them or convince them to do things that they do not want to do. The reason why this usually happens is when you do not know yourself well enough and still discovering your identity, personality, likes, dislikes and this takes time. You do not know everything about yourself instantly, speaking from experience and with time and experience, the puzzle pieces fit together. I know this sounds pretty general so I will give an example. Person A dreams of being in a steady relationship with a good guy, she does not put any physical criteria (although good looks would be a bonus) but the person will need to be someone mature, understanding of her current status as a student, have good intentions, trustworthy, makes her feel good and COMPATIBLE (I am highlighting this and come back to this point later), responsible and reliable. Person A knows that nobody is perfect but ideally, these general characteristics will help build a stable and healthy relationship between the two. So 3 key things that this lady has done to ensure success in her future relationship are:

1. She recognises her rights in determining key aspects in a person that she expects of. This is not demanding, girls but this is putting a standard for yourself. Not necessarily a physical one, in this case she was flexible with that but I have a friend who likes red-haired guys (rare I know haha) but eventually if she meets her soulmate, she will accept the way he is. 

2. She knows herself well and clear about what she is looking for.

3. She is definitely mature, she knows nobody is perfect yet she understands that in order for a relationship to work, some of these criterias need to be met. 

However, how do you tell if your partner or somebody you have met has the important aspects you are looking for. The short answer to that is you cannot. It takes time and you need to know each other well in order to learn and know more about the other person. The key thing is not too rush. I am not saying that a relationship is an easy journey speaking from experience. Sometimes the first year of knowing each other can be one of the most challenging part because you are still figuring out each other's likes, dislikes, behavioural patterns. I honestly think it takes time and effort from both parties. The best time to tell if you are compatible is during a time of hardship. See how the other person responds. And one thing to bear in mind. Being in a good, healthy relationship is not all about your partner pleasing you and you sitting down, doing nothing and judging them. This is not all about you and your own happiness. You need to learn about your partner and do your part in making them happy and always always always let them know and show that you appreciate them. I cannot emphasise this more. Men generally like being adored and appreciated while women constantly need reassurance and attention. If you are a guy, reading this, yes no matter how many times you have said I Love You or any kind words, you need to repeat them in a kind, genuine way because most women need a constant reminder that they are in a good position. 

When you are in a relationship, my advice is that when you have a problem, try to solve it together. If possible (if the situation is not too serious that it involves health or safety) then try to discuss with each other instead of consulting a friend for every little thing. Your friend does not know the both of you as well as you know each other so bear that in mind and if you are planning a future together, then its time that the two of you learn to solve problems together because life can be a bumpy ride. 

And finally, I am not saying all this because I feel that my love life is perfect but I am sharing this information as a reminder that love is indeed a beautiful thing and it takes a lot of maturity, wisdom, good understanding, kindness and compassion to enable to different human beings to be closely associated with each other. With that, I end this post with a warm wishes for a beautiful weekend. 

Saturday, December 12, 2015

Chubby Bunny Challenge with Erfan

Hello guys :D These are my Chubby Bunnies :D Like this video, they are so cute! I love both of you :*

Saturday, October 24, 2015

Motivational article: Dealing With Expectations

Dear all, I hope you are all doing good. I know its almost the end of the year and exams are drawing near. As for me, a brand new academic year just started within a month ago. I know there are some unreplied comments, messages. Please bear with me and I will reply as soon as I can. 

Today, my blog topic is one that most of you can relate to and that is expectations. If there is a word that I would like to eliminate from my dictionary (one that I rarely mention even) is the word 'expectation'. I feel like that word is slightly harsh or hard in a way. For example, I always think its better to phrase a sentence with "I hope that things will go well." versus "I expect things will go well." Well, I do start thinking if I hear this statement, what is the consequences then if that person's expectations are not met???" Ooooh I start to feel the tension and stress even imagining this scenario.

Then I think to myself, why did I decide to write this? It is not like I have had the word 'expectation' used towards me. I don't even remember when was the last time somebody mentioned it. The reason for me writing this is because I realised that there are 2 types of expectations; the verbal one and the silent one. And although I do not use that word quite often, the silent one is experienced quite frequent than I realise. And when people speak about problems, whether it is about lecturers, classes, friends, family, relationship or self-confidence for instance, more than 50% of the time, I believe that it has something to do with expectations either within yourself or with the other person.

Having expectations within yourself is not bad, for instance having 'Yearly Goals' or 'Career Plans' or even a daily or weekly schedule. Those are things that you expect yourself to get accomplished. That's wonderful, you are very organised indeed! The problem comes when you are unable to meet the exact plan that you made and guys, when I make a study plan, it happens to me very often. What is do is become flexible and plan efficiently. I will pick whatever is priority and do that first followed by whatever is extra. Also, I try to plan achievable goals and not something that would stress myself out and make me feel inferior of that achievement. No no, that's the last thing you want to do especially when you have a lot to accomplish. So, plan reasonably and although you have goals to achieve, be flexible to a certain extent. You know yourself better than anyone else.

Next, there is that silent expectation with another person. Although you do not verbally say to a friend "I expect you to do this and that" there is that sort of message that is expected to be mutually understood of what is nice and not nice to do to a friend. Trust me, having this expectation can actually hurt yourself. Let me give you a scenario when a friend is sick: A super nice person's definition of nice is 'Getting her friend a card, a hug and something to cheer them up when they are feeling down or ill', a moderately nice person's definition of nice would be 'Wish her a get-well-soon and suggest if there is anything you can do to help, just shout out' and a not-so-nice person won't say anything or even ask them to stay away so germs won't spread. Therefore, the definition of nice varies with different people and that is where the problem starts with this silent expectation.

Somebody may have thought they did nothing to offend the other person or even neutral feelings whereby the other party felt very hurt and upset. And usually this scenario happens between a person who could not care less what they did or said and another person who is relatively sensitive or super nice because then this person's definition of nice is really positive :) If people with these very different personality gets into a relationship, they would need extremely great mutual understanding and care to make the relationship last. Usually its the very nice with very nice and so-so with the so-so. 

I have experienced this situation myself, quite a number of times actually but the key thing is to stay confident about yourself and to keep spreading positive energy and staying nice. I am not saying you need to be snobbish, but you really need to think how blessed and amazing you are and your life has been, how thankful you are to have good health and a family that loves you and true friends that care and genuinely accept you for who you are. There may be flaws and imperfection here and there, nobody's life is perfect and you accept your life for how it is because that is how God made it and that is really amazing :)

Feel lucky and happy for where you are, who you are, who your family and friends are, how you look, who you are with and whatever you are doing. Yes life can have been better if this and this and that but hey, life is not about being perfect. Its about being happy in an imperfect way and when you are able to accept and make the best of what you have, then only you will feel that positive acceptance which overwhelms you with happiness. 

Avoid expectations too much I would generally say and stick with positive people because positive energy is contagious ;) so spread it around!


Have a nice weekend 

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Motivation of the Month

Hi guys :) Hope everyone is doing great and I know I literally haven't wrote for months and probably the last long post was 4 months ago. Since then, I had my final exam for second year, then a very interesting geochemistry lab course, a research project still ongoing, trips to Cambridge and Brighton then Ramadan back home in Malaysia, then the start of my internship, then Raya and back to internship and now today. That sentence summed up my activities for the past couple of months. 

This year 2015 I feel so much more mature than my previous years, I feel more adult than I usually have haha, well those teenager days do drop by once in awhile. 

Oh dear, as I am writing this now I realise how much I
enjoy writing and talking on my blog and how much I have missed it. 

Although I have been busy, I think some of you may want to know that I recently received my Year 2 results and alhamdulillah overall
1st class :') 

It is not easy getting a first class in my university because there are so many competitive people I would say and they have this sort of normal distribution histogram whereby they cannot have too many people with a first or with an F. Majority needs to be in the middle..

Alhamdulillah it was definitely a challenging year and I am so blessed and thankful for this achievement.

I am now in Sarawak another state across the sea from KL. Its my first time here after 10 years. People are so nice around here and its surrounding is such a drastic difference to KL and London hehe.

If there is one motivational message I would like to mention in this post is that no matter where you go, what you achieve, who you are and how you got where you are, there IS going to be negative people. People who are just unhappy or rude or cold or unpleasant or angry for no reason. These people may try or unintentionally demotivate you, lower you self-esteem, make you lose hope (temporarily), even make you angry and upset/ blame yourself. But wait. Step back. Look at the bigger picture. Before you play along with their game, pause and think. It is usually either 2 cases, first they feel threatened and want to belittle you or secondly they are upset of their own lives and achievement and find joy in belittling others. 

I know I may have repeated myself in any of the previous posts but I honestly feel that motivation is something we constantly need, even if it is the same message phrased in a different way, it is still important and necessary to constantly have.

Another thing I would like to point out is compassion. Have compassion for even the person you truly dislike, have that little sorry feeling and honest hope that their life gets better and they will be lightened with kindness and blessings. I am not saying you need to be entirely nice to people who are absolutely mean but I just think that not holding a grudge and cleaning your heart from any angry feeling against someone who has done wrong to you actually does more good to you than you can ever imagine. Feeling angry at someone actually drains the energy out of you and at some point you can feel so helpless because that angry feeling would not solve anything. This is hard, I admit. Like how in the world would you try to be kind and forgive someone who has been a complete nuisance. But try, at least try and God will help you with that clear intention and kindness you have in your heart. Trust me for that other person, remember that what comes around goes around. If he/she continues to behave in that manner then one day they may be in a difficult situation themselves and at that time they may regret it or learn their lesson the hard way.

Life is too short to be filled with hateful people, there are so many kind and happy people out there who would appreciate you so much more and give you that positive vibe that you deserve.

I chose this motivation for this month because travelling and going to different places has led me to meeting a lot of people with different behaviours and it has taught me a life lesson that I would like to share with all of you.

Sometimes, when you are kind, people may take advantage of that kindness or take you for granted. They test you and think that they can behave in whatever manner they wish, but no. Be assertive and yes if you are not sure what this word means click it now :)

Its like being in between extrovert and introvert and maintaining a good balance. 

Whatever you are facing now, stay positive and believe that once you do your best, God will plan the rest. He would not test you with something you are not capable of so keep that smile :)

Wishing you all a wonderful week ahead and take care :D

Friday, June 12, 2015

Deep Sea Research

Geology is so interesting! From the planets and the Sun and the Aurora to gemstones and now I'm researching into the deep sea. 

SubhanAllah so many endless spectular creations :)

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

How to Deal With Homesickness

Dear Readers, 

I am very happy to write tonight, I know its been months and I've been through a lot of adventure. I believe you deserve to know what I've been up to since I last blogged. Well in mid March I went for my fieldtrip to Pyrenees it was like the Urra trip I had last year but much better :) Then as soon as I returned to London, my mum, brother and sister arrived here for a holiday. I was very delighted and super duper happy with their presence, I always miss them so very much. We spent two weeks going around London, having my mum's cookings again, we went for a short trip to Paris, Cotsworld, Oxford and Stratford. We went for a tour in Wembley Stadium, to Chessington Park, to Olympic Park, Hyde Park, and many more exciting places. It was such a beautiful dream for me and also a good break from studying. As soon as they left to Malaysia, I began studying for my final exam at the end of April which ended last Friday. I was really sad at first. Whenever I saw anything that reminded me of my brother or their time here, I started to tear. He made me a mask and painted it, I just couldn't bear looking at it without missing him, He googled something on my phone, I did not want to remove that page from history and just left it because it was him who typed the words there. When I went to a restaurant that I previously went with them and my two cousins, I ordered quickly and went outside. After a few minutes, I returned to get my order and accidentally glanced at the table that we all sat. I tried to contain myself but couldn't help it and started tearing again. It was not very easy for me even though I am already on my second year here. This second year though I feel very much stronger and confident than I felt last year alhamdulillah. However, I can't help but still be very sad at transition periods like when I just reached or saying goodbye phases, after a few days or a week insyaAllah I feel much better. 

In the process of making myself feel better, I told myself that I had my final exams coming. I had to stay focused, disciplined and positive. I am here for a good reason, I am not going to forget that and a main part of that reason is for my family. So in response my reader who mentioned about being homesick, try to think about all the benefits that you will achieve once you complete your studies. Yes you will miss you home, your family and your little cousins. But think at how your success in education will allow you to get a stable job and good income and that will tremendously help those people you love. Yes its true that money can't buy love but it can buy necessities for your loved ones and even special treats. Wouldn't that make them happy? That would come later and now let's think of the benefit of that now. Being away from home gives you more time to yourself, you will have time to do things, hobbies that you never had the time to consider before. You will be less distracted by family functions, events, etc and have more focus on what you need to do each day for yourself, for your education. This does not make you selfish but it enhances self-management skills whereby you need to plan your day, your week without your family planning it for you. Also living independently in a foreign place whether it is in the same country or different, allows you to broaden your mind and explore new places. This can be very exciting. I always like to think that I am on a long holiday in London and on this holiday I have been given the honour  to stay near the palace and study at a prestigious university. Its all like a make-believe fairytale dream which is opposed to reality but the young self inside me likes to think of it this way so it feels more exciting :) Whenever I have breaks or finish exams I would celebrate and reward myself and go on a real holiday in or outside London. I may not celebrate with wine but with bubble tea hehe. 

Like last Friday after exams I was thinking of what can I do to reward myself. I dropped by the local library to see if they had any nice DVDs but no. I spoke to my mum and sister and my mum suggested I go out for a movie. Capucine and I had plans of seeing each other Friday night so I suggested we watch Cinderella in Leciester Square and have dinner there. She suggested we have dinner at 5 Guys- I had vegetarian burger. Its the same place I went with my family after we watched The Lion King Musical Theatre when they were here. Thankfully I was so so cheerful that night that I did not feel sad but I avoided sitting at the same table or thinking too much about it. The movie was amazing! The last time I watched a movie at the theatre was in Christmas break so you see I usually go when I have breaks because I am really occupied whenever term starts. Coincidentally my aunt and cousins were in the same area that night! The weekend was equally fun, on Sat my <3 and I cooked beef curry and then went to South Bank Book Market and the Malaysian Festival. I managed to get a book for myself and 2 books for my brother. I had teh tarik, apam balik for £4 (RM20+ omg) and kuey teow. Then I watched Paddington Bear at night. The next day Capucine and I had creped at South Kensington for lunch. We had a savoury Italian pepperoni (it was halal) and then shared a nutella one for dessert. Then we went cycling in Hyde Park, the last time I cycled was Nov 2013 at the same place, can't believe it was that long ago. Then I read a book on the grass in the sun. When it got windy we went to the Science Museum then walked around the area into bakery shops. Later that night I made maggi for our dinner it was so yummy, she likes it too although I thought it would be too spicy for her. And today we have a day off for Bank Holiday I am catching up with whatever I need to do before the start of labs tomorrow (time to get busy again). 

You see that it can be pretty exciting when you find things you enjoy doing, find good friends insyaAllah and also just live the moment. Remember that you are going to university or wherever you are at the moment only for a short fraction of your life, Its not forever and you will return once you are done with your responsibility. Stay positive about it and discover things you can do to make you feel very lucky for where you are at the moment, Think that if you were back home you would not be able to do this and this. Nothing compares to being at home in your comfort zone, I know I know but while you are there now, be happy about it because one day it will be time to go home, You want to go home with a positive experience and good memories, not sadistic homesick feelings the entire time. Cheer up and call your family as frequently as you want to. No excuse for being too expensive because now we have Whatsapp calls, Viber, Line, Skype. Call until you feel like you have nothing else to say and that you need to rush and get back to work. 

Fill your time and make it so packed like stuffing feathers in a pillow ;) Don't give any time for you to be sad or feel down. Make every use of your time for whatever you enjoy doing. Sometimes it can be too gloomy to be indoors all the time, go out and take a walk. If there is nobody to go out with you, be independent go yourself but make sure you know your way and go to safe places, preferably in the day. Imagine I leave home at 8ish and most days return at 8ish because I devote extra time for yoga. It interests me and I am willing to help out and get free lessons. So when I go back I instantly only have time for important things before going to bed right away. 

Arrange time for your family and friends. Although you may be busy, it is really comforting to actually see them via skype, etc. Remember that other people are busy as well and it is not particularly easy when you have a 7-8 hour time difference, For example when I am almost going to sleep (11pm UK time), my family is only about to wake up (7am Malaysian time). So when people are unable to make a call whatsoever, relax you can arrange another time. There may be also a time that they want to talk and it is not suitable for you. So be flexible about it.

Make any alone time a time to be close to God and to perform prayer, also to reflect on yourself. Sometimes God keeps the people he loves away for a period of time from their family to make them closer to Him. Any sacrifice made because of Him will be granted with beautiful rewards. Remember that the world is temporary and you need prepare yourself for the day.

Also every growing lady or man should practice being independent as they are going to have lives and families of their own in the future. If mum and dad has always been doing literally everything then its time to improvise that before taking a step further in life. When living independently I have learned a lot of things and have been under the pressure of having to do things rather than wanting to in the first place, For example if I were not here, I wouldn't have known I could cook so many different things more than I would imagine compared to 3 years ago. I have also learned to do my own shopping and decide which brand food I would buy and how much, ration it so I finish within the date. Make sure I have every essential at home or know exactly where to get it. I have learned how to use public transport. My mum has pampered me and driven me to almost everywhere I have had to go and now I am literally using 100% public transport or walking. Drastic change but alhamdulillah I managed it. 

Always read motivational books, articles and quotes. Whenever I go to a bookstore I always search the motivational section. Chicken Soup has been with me as I was growing up and as much as I enjoy writing motivational articles, I need constant motivation for myself because at times we may forget the basic things. 

Finally, have a positive mind and always believe everything happens for a reason. Believe that any hardship will be granted with happiness and you will be surprised at how different you look at things. 

Take care guys and till my next post. Hope this articles is helpful, have a wonderful week :D

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Don't Look Down

My yoga instructor said something today that really made me think. He was trying to tell us to keep our heads and eye up on the ceiling while doing a difficult binding pose. And then he said " Don't look down or else you will fall down". While continuing my yoga session, I was thinking to myself about that statement. It actually means a lot more than we think. Its sort of like a life message. Firstly, it tells us not to look down on ourselves or else people will look down on us too and we will shake our self-confidence by always criticising or belittling things that we do. SO never ever look down on yourself too much. I say too much here because next comes the second meaning of the phrase. Do not look down on people because if you do, people will dislike you over time and you will lose all the means of happiness, being loved and living life peacefully. Some people tend to find reasons to look down on others and it can be due to very simple reasons. Its unbelievable but sadly some human beings fail to realise that we are created all equal and we all just need to live in peace, respect and harmony. There are so many incidents that I have seen or read where people just look down on other people. For instance, the tragic Delhi bus incident is horrifying and how they look at women as being so low is simply sad and unbelievable... Also, now in college are The Elections and I tend to hear people saying vote so and so, don't vote so and so. Hello people, you can publicise your posters, your manifestos but there is no need to say to people not to vote this and that person. Let that be our choice. I just feel bad about the other person if he/she saw it. I mean that's the reason why I don't like politics, my least favourite thing after crime and synonyms. 

I'm writing this with hope that there are decent people or potentially decent and reasonable people who will always remember to respect other people, care for people's feelings and not act selfishly as well as playing a role to live in peace and harmony. I guess the most we can do is to play an active part. If the other party does not bother to do the same, let them be and try your best not to let it affect yourself. Besides this world is created in a way to be imperfect and bearing that in mind, we will not be too disappointmented when things do not go our way.

Take care everyone and if you have any request for motivation posts, do comment here. Congratulations to those who received their SPM results today. I still remember mine 5 years ago, wow time flies. Bye bye :D Warm wishes

Monday, February 16, 2015

A Must-Listen Motivational Speech

Dear Readers,

Whether you are a student or working or even simply searching for an inspiration in life, spare 15 minutes of your time to listen to this speech till the end. The story of someone with great motivation to succeed and proves to you if someone homeless could achieve amazing success, so could you.

Hope you are all doing good, best wishes from me and have a productive and wonderful week :):):)

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Feeling Great About Yourself?

That answer should be YES ! :)

My post today will be mainly about motivating yourself. No matter how motivated a person seems to be, how happy or positive she/ he is, there will be down times where they feel like in a pit or like getting away from all the difficult challenges and reality of the world. They feel like living life the way they like to be, away from all negativity and forgetting about any problems temporarily. The quickest way to get there for me is by reading a storybook. Yup, it takes me to another world and I just become completely immersed for a moment and imagine that I am the main character. 

Sometimes when I am feeling really down, what I'll do is pray to God and and talk to Him. Then I will speak to those very close to me because I am a very expressive person and just need to express my feelings to let it all out. If it is really bothering I will write it down or find a solution. But if that thing bothering me is shaking my confidence as well, then I will remind myself of all the good things I am capable of doing, my talents and a list of reasons why I feel blessed. And one more thing I read your comments. You guys must be smiling right now but yes, as much as people say I inspire and motivate them, I need a source of inspiration and motivation myself and some of people's thoughtful comments really touch my heart.. Its that feeling of hearing something nice from someone you do not know and yes I know its because of my tips but sometimes I am tremendously touched when people say, you have truly inspired me and changed me to better, you have helped me so much, you have no idea how I look up to you and thank you so much for helping me.

I feel like tearing during those times that I am extra sensitive.. I wrote with a good intention that time because I wanted to share what I learned and also because I really enjoy writing and talking to people. And Internet seems like the fastest and cheapest way to interact positively with people. I am not one of those people who will spend time online commenting on videos and arguing about a newspaper headline. I'll leave that debate to the professionals ;) But I am touched because at the time of writing I did not know how and who' will be reading and if it will even make a difference to people so listening to good things people say really motivates me to write more.

In this world I realised people are becoming less nicer to each other. I don't know if its the perks of growing up that people get more selfish and individualistic but I definitely feel it and even here in London. I guess in any big city people are generally like that. You shouldn't let people define your self-worth. I just read a comment from a girl earlier that told me she failed her Physics exam when she is aiming for A+. I understand.. things like this can really lower your confidence but try and be positive and look at it in a different way. It will make you strive harder, put in more work and concentrate at that particular subject or if you have the option to take another subject later in your life, focus at what you are good at. In school you have to take all subjects but there are rarely many people who are good in all subjects. People have their strength and weaknesses. Maybe if you see people getting very high grades, it may be that its a coincidence that those are their niche subjects- sciences for example. But if he or she were to do a computing course, then they might need to work even harder. 

Read books and have a hobby. Don't underestimate the benefits of having a hobby. It will make you even more motivated to do your work because you are looking forward to something. Also it will make you happy and even develop a skill. Hobbies can also make you more confident because over time you will be very good at something and people will look up to you because of that. So yes, if you don't have a hobby go and find one right now :)

Be unique, be brave to be different. You don't have to follow the crowd. If you think something else is better and more beneficial go ahead and do it as long as it is not against the rules and does not hurt or affect others. 

Have a kind heart and good intentions. Speaking of good intentions, also remember to 'sangka baik'. This means that you believe that people have a good intention too whenever they react or do something to you. It is really really easy to be offended from people. For example, you know how watsapp has the 'last seen'. Well, initially I was always worried when people sent me a message and I had to reply soon because then they would see me online and not reply. Over time, I tried my best to make sure if I wasn't in a position to reply I wouldn't open my Watsapp. That was fine for the first year when watsapp wasn't very popular. Over time, when my mother also had watsapp as well as my grandmother hehe, well my point here is important people that you would need to reply soon about you daily schedule and stuff, it was impossible not to go online when I needed to. And later on, I realised that many of my friends did not reply immediately as well when I texted so I 'sangka baik' and thought they must be busy so I guess society perception now is that its alright to reply a Watsapp late. If you are someone close reading this and you don't agree with me and prefer me to reply when I read it, pleaaaase let me know k. Ill try my best to do that for you :) I always try my best to make sure people who are close to me feel lucky to be my friend, family, love. Nobody is perfect of course and I have flaws too but I always believe if you have good intention it outshines those little things.

Last but not least, work hard. Funny but true, great achievement makes you feel good about yourself. Everyone likes to be looked up to hehe so as long as you are working hard and praying to God, I am sure that you will achieve what you are trying to get, one way or another. 

Be fun to be around with. Omg some people are so boring, oops *joking* Have some sense of humour and be happy and fun, it makes you feel good because people generally enjoy the company of people who make them feel at ease. I always feel exhausted if I talk to someone and they bombard me with too many serious or personal questions and I prefer that those questions be asked when we are talking about a related topic and not so direct haha.

If I am studying I will put it all in and when I am having fun, I can just be so totally different. I once even said to myself, I can't be around too serious people all the time or I might be depressed. I think its because even in my family my dad and sister are super funny and I'm used to having something to laugh at when I speak to them. However, the person being fun is not the only thing I look for in a friend, as long as I feel that she is kind-hearted or wants to be friends with me, then I can usually get along with them and be friends so it depends different people have different perspectives but my main point is to have a laugh, surround yourself by people who make you feel good, have time to yourself for self-development and also stay positive and light-hearted. Afterall, life is not entirely about formal  things but it is also about living a quality, healthy and beneficial life for this world and hereafter. 

I'm getting sleepy now and have a 9-5 class tomorrow ^.^ as well as Friday. Take care guys and wishing you a beautiful week ahead. :) :D :>

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Dover Day-trip and My Christmas Break

Dear readers, 

This is my first post of 2015 HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone! :) I feel excited now blogging for the first time this brand new year. 

I have a few things to say I don't know where to start. Today is Friday and I remember exactly what I did this time last week. It was Boxing Day and I went shopping early in the morning! When I first heard boxing day I thought it was like *punch punch kinda boxing but it actually is a day that shops have sales and loads of items sold at a discounted price probably because they are boxing old items and replacing them with new ones? So yaay I got a few necessary things for myself but not too many because I am currently on the verge of overspending. Its not like I spend too much but London is definitely the most expensive place to live in the UK and only buying and paying for necessary items is already sweeping loads of your money away. But I like it in London because its so convenient to get around by tube, bus, walking- many people walk so it feels safer. Also there are loads of halal food available and you have lots of nice places to go when you are bored- free museums, free parks.

After shopping on Oxford Street, I went home to make meehun for lunch then we headed for a movie and watched Instellar. It was a really nice movie. And how do I justify that. Well, I was alert the entire time and did not doze off or not understand a particular scene. It was pretty scientific especially those gravity anomaly thingys ( I learn about it this year- so happy I'm hearing about something complex I learned in a movie) and also some parts were so scientific I did not understand but overall it had a nice plot. Then after the movie we walked around Oxford Street and admired the Christmas lights and got a drink at Chatime! Yes, they have one in London and I had pearl milk tea. It was the first time I ever had one and it was so nice- I like bubble tea. After that, we returned home and cooked salmon sweet sour together for dinner with veggie. It was so yummy. After doing some errands, I made a barley drink and that summed up my relaxing Friday.

The next day was our special Dover trip ^.^ Yippee I was so happy and excited for our short getaway from hectic and busy London and go somewhere slower paced for the first time since I reached UK this Autumn. We wanted to go on a daytrip and since Sunrise is at 8am, Sunset at 4pm and Isyak at 6 pm, you can imagine how we had limited time to spend before it got dark so Dover was the perfect place to go. There was only 2 attractions to go- Dover White Cliff and Dover Castle and then we could head home.  We went to the castle first and went on a guided tour in the underground tunnels... it was creepy to think that soldiers actually lived down there in the dark and hid from the enemies. I learned so so so much history in one day. Also I learned that Dover is the closest part of UK to Paris only 25 miles. Because of this during the World War, they used to help French people get to the UK and away from the German attackers by transporting them by ship to Dover. I really enjoyed it that I bought a history book and since it was a Scholastic publication (one of my favourite) I decided to get it right away and learn more.  We had lunch at the castle then headed off to our next destination- the White Cliffs. Being a Geology student, this is a must-go place for me. I learn about carbonates and deposition of these sorts of rocks that it was amazing to see in real life. It was nice going to see Geology just for fun without having to do fieldwork. 

One thing that I wanted to point out about my trip was that I experienced something extraordinary that I have never felt or remembered before- the transition of snow.. :) It happened when we were at Dover Castle after lunch as we were touring around the other parts of the castle. It was sunny but chilly and then it started to rain and then then rain got kind of solid and ice surrounded me and got stuck on my bag and coat. Then the ice began to get whiter and whiter as more ice decided to land on my backpack, I got out my umbrella because I thought it was just normal rain at first and then the winds were so strong it almost blew my umbrella away so I decided that was not a good idea so we sought shelter. As I was standing by the side of the road, I realised that the grass turned white and it was actually snowing! I felt so touched and surprised at the same time because I haven't felt snow for the last 7 years. And even when I was small I used to go out when the snow was already thick, I have never knew how it started but what I experienced was on the boundary of rain and snow. From my memory when it is cold enough to snow the snowflakes fall more lightly to the ground. But still, it was amazing :) By the time it was near sunset at 330pm, I was freezing cold and my hands and even my lips were numb. We were not exactly prepared for snow so our cotton gloves were wet too. 
So after dropping by the souvenir shop, we took the 430 train and headed home to London. 

This trip has taught me a little lesson : 1. Always prepare for it to snow in Winter :)
 and more importantly 

2. Transition in life, no matter in what form it is, is always tough. Change may be challenging to bear but it is the transition that is even more difficult. Just like how the magnetic field of the Earth have a normal and reversed polarity (ok I am being a but more scientific here) but yes, that transition from normal to reverse takes thousands of years and during that process it gets all jumbled up and mixed up but once it completes and becomes the other one, it is fine and stable again. And then I thought... hey.. that is just like experiencing changes in life. That duration of transition is different for different situations and different people. For example, when a student moves to a new school, she may take 3 months to adapt while another student may only need 3 weeks. Using a new shoe may only need 1 day or at most 1 week for your feet to adapt. And at that time your feet may experience blisters and feel hurt and then it is alright again. I learned such a great lesson that day, something I knew but did not really give much thought and understand. So everytime you experience something new in life, you are prone to having that (I will call it- "transition feeling"). So anytime you experience something different, new and you are forced to adapt to whatever life circumstances you are in, always trust that it will be fine and soon the transition period will end. How long? Let's leave that to Him. You just need to stay positive and make the best of your life :) 

End of motivation session, back to my story hehe. 

The Wednesday before I went to Dover, I met my high school friends who came to London for a holiday :) That morning I met Maddy first and made English breakfast for her, took her to Kensington Park, fed the swans and had a hotdog sandwich for lunch. Then we watched the Phantom of the Opera Musical Theatre at Her Majesty's Theatre. It was amazing! I enjoyed it so much and would watch it a second time. When I was learning about the Phantom of the Opera in Puan Jugdeep's Literature class, I did not know that I would be watching the live musical theatre 7 years later :) Later that night we walked around London Eye and Big Ben then had lunch at an Indian Restaurant in Bayswater. It was such a nice catchup with my friends. 

After my Dover trip, a few other high school friends who are studying in the UK came over my place on Sunday evening. We had dinner at Leicester Square and then I went home and the next day we met up to make lunch together. We cooked tomyam chicken soup, it was so yummy yet spicy! I guess real tomyam needs to taste like that ;) 

On New Year's eve, I just watched the fireworks from my bedroom window and cooked spaghetti for lunch with my friend who came over to study together. 

Take care everyone and all the best writing your New Year's resolution. Whatever it is, work hard to achieve it, after all any sort of hard work will definitely pay off in one way or another. 

And now the rest of my holidays are full of books and papers- exams drawing near. If I have a chance I will blog again before exams, otherwise I will write more at the end of January/ early February. 

Once again, Welcome to 2015 !! :) Happy wishes from LittleMissMeen xxoo